My first date was 2 years and 2 months after he passed. It didn't work out between us...but it was fun to get out!
Thanks Carol! I am doing better and its good to vent!
Hope everyone has a wonderful day!

Thanks Auburn! I appreciate your words. Congrats on your "someone"!

Thanks Knightless. Thats so true--about ppl that don't want to be around someone who has lost a spouse. Actually, alot of men that I have met on this site, and another one, don't want someone who was previously married! It blows my mind! I think its not worth even taking the time to talk to them. So, it seems to be an endless search. I think I am not going to focus on finding someone right now--ya know they say when you're not looking....lol.

Its true Sage, I will not let anyone push me, especially anyone who says we are "friends". I know what it was like to have a wonderful friendship and a relationship, and I will never settle for less.

Anyway, thanks all for letting me vent, thats what I love about this part of the site. Hope everyone has a good night!

Sage, by no means do I make Josh (LH) the center of topics. I know I can't live in the past and the future at the same time. No one wants to hear of past relationships, its not fair for him or me. BUT, he shared first and then I did. Thats what friendships are about (i think) and I thought it was ok to share. Then, he freaked out on me telling me, "oh, you need to move on, you can't live in the past" blah, blah, blah. Like he was giving me all this great advice I have never heard before. I think I am reasonable and always think before I speak (or type lol) IDK, I guess its just so difficult trying to find someone--even in a friendship--that is willing to accept I am a widow and Josh was a huge part of my life. I am in no way trying to be a victim or have a pity party. It just seems I am in a different catergory, or realm...and finding reasonable ppl to talk to, or have a relationship with is so out of reach. Thanks for you input, Im not trying to be rude Im just fired up...

Hello Everyone. ((Roses)) it sounds like things are rough, please take it easy-I hope the best for you!

Ok, so I have a question for all widow/ers. First-the background. I started chatting with a guy online (maybe 3 months now), and we got along alright. Then he said something to me- You need to move on. Ok, first off he shared a memory with me, so I thought I could share one back. Second, he has no idea what I have been through in the last 3 years and I am doing SO much better than I was last year. I know I will NEVER forget my LH, and what we shared but, I am confused when it comes to making new friendships/relationships. Do I keep my LH's life and death a secret, or is this guy just an a$$hole?? When it comes to friendships/relationships do you share openly or do you keep it bottled up?

((((((OutandAbout)))))) I've been wondering about you. I'm glad you stopped in...Hope you are getting on



Thanks, I have been. Lots of things to keep me busy-for the sake of enjoying life, not just ignoring the past. I think things will be just fine.
Have a great day!

Hello Everyone!
Just wanted to check in and say hi, hope all is well with you. Have a great day!

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thanks sage, i appreciate it.

s, do something to make them gasp?....sounds like a plan!

cuppy, i agree.

thanks, everyone

I don't think I did the "quote" thing right! lol

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Grabs her hand and says....damn it...lets go out and play...even if its just for a night...

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Thanks, sounds like fun!

(((cuppy)))
Thanks, That is good advice. It is hard to swallow tho, then I truely have to let him die....*trying to pick butt up* Im glad for you, that you have such a wonderful friend! What a blessing.

(((Sadie)))
Thats just it, isn't it? Its learining how to live life all over again, but differently;and its
not easy. Aahh, sleep, and to sleep well and be rested. I remember those days...

(((carold)))--thanks, good to see you too

(((auburn))) thanks, its nice that this forum is here I appreciate it. Does it really get better?

I am so sorry for your loss Sadie. My life has been nothing but miserable since my beloved Josh left. Although, in April (after the 2 year mark) I made a decision I wanted to be happy again and try to live everyday to the fullest. (yea! for me!) I think I'm just having some bad days. I have started gaining more "good days" and have less "bad days"--but the bad days are bad! I just miss him so much, ya know?

I'm tired of being a widow!!

That I do understand. My hubby passed away two years ago on 4-21-06. Its a difficult thing to go through, but they say it'll make you stronger. Hope all is well with you,

I'm Here!

Prayers, for you and your son

Well, its kind of a long story but, I'll try to keep it short. lol... I married my high school sweatheart and after our six year ann. we found out he had a muscle disease. It wasn't a disease that was going to kill him but, in the end the depression from being disabled did. He took his own life. It has been just over two years now, and has been very difficult,and made some decisions I feel I was pushed into by my in-laws, (especially not being in the right mind.) I guess the real issue is involved with his parents. They have done nothing but take from me, in every way. I thought it may be a way to hurt them back and help me move on.(although I don't really think so) I know I will never forget my hubby and the memories we shared, and what type of people we were striving to be. idk...maybe I am still depressed and dealing with greif and anger... I just thought I'd throw the question out there to see what others had done. Thank you all for your concern and comments.