I don't date men who play head games, period. If someone's not mature and communicative enough to be honest with me about how he feels and what he's thinking, he's not worth my time.

I'd take it slowly. That's not love, that's infatuation. You can't know her very well after such a short period of time, and she could be totally insane for all you know. Slow down a bit.

Wow, really? I would refuse to date anyone who DIDN'T put his kid(s) first. If that most important priority is out of whack, how can you expect him to have anything else together?

(I'm with you on the child support and co-parent bits, though. Co-parenting should only become an issue MUCH later into the relationship.)

Er, I don't. You really can't generalize that way; we're all different people with different needs.

I don't know, I like making the first move sometimes. I tend toward a highly communicative relationship model, so if I want something, I'll usually flat-out ask for it. Takes the guess work out of the whole thing.

One would hope one's partner would be able to vocalize which one (or both) applies.

I think the real problem with Hallmark/Disney notions of love is the "love will conquer all" message. Love doesn't conquer all. We still have different goals, and lives to live, and sometimes those things don't intersect the way we might hope. But that doesn't make love any less real; in fact, that's a more real version of love.

The last time I heard it for the first time, I was quite happy about it. I wasn't sure I was in love with him as well, but I knew that I loved him, and knew that I wasn't going anywhere so there was no rush to figure out how to categorize the love I felt for him.

And since we've broken up, we still love each other. It's different now, and that love has morphed into a different form, but it's definitely no less there. It's really beautiful, actually. I don't think I'll ever stop loving him, and I'm really okay with that.

Most of those things deserve some attribution to the comic who came up with them.

I don't think so, but I also hadn't found anyone who looked like they were worth my e-mailing, with compatible interests and such. On another dating site, I can search for people with high match percentages, which makes things easier, and which is why I was confused when I clicked on the matching feature here and didn't see anyone who seemed like they'd be particularly compatible with me. Maybe I'll give the forums a try. Thanks for your help.

That may be. Is a lot of this centered around the forums? I wasn't quite sure how I was supposed to find anyone I actually have anything in common with.

I guess I was hoping I was missing some feature. If I'm not, that's cool.

See, this is why I prefer OKCupid. I've seen no hoards of geeks or polyamorous folks on this site. The discussions don't interest me, and the people who have messaged me are generally clueless and seem completely uninterested in what I've said in my profile. I've had success with OKCupid due to its matching system, and due to this site's lack thereof, why should I spend any time here?

Maybe she hasn't found anyone on here she considers worth talking to from a standpoint of compatibility. I've been running into that as well. Just a thought.

I'm in Silver Spring.