I THINK friends first, learning things about a person like boundries, likes, diss likes, what makes them happy what common grounds you both have, spending time together are all part of building a friendship, then sumtimes you fall in love with that person based on ALL qualities they posses. Nd sumtimes you realize your better off as friends. Most of the time we find that we dont even like a person as a good friend. But i usually do a three date rule before deciding if i want friends or no more contact. Sum times dates can be weird or off set by many things. I give benifit of doubt just in case it was a bad day for what ever reason. Unless they cross my three major boundry rules. Then i know when to get the hell out of there...... lmao! But i dont reveal my 3 first date boundries ever! It eigther is or it isnt. Cant change a person only find the one that fits like a glove. Anyway------ thats my interpritation, everyone is different and believes in their own dreams, and we are all looking for our ideal match as long as we know that no one person is "PERFECT" and are willing to see things through and be understanding to one another i think there will be sumone for each of us. The internet has changed the dating world as i knew it to be as a younger girl, and that is what i believe we all are hiding behind. So stuborn to bend a bit, looking for sum one better and better than the last one. Forgetting about what the heart wants. :D Melissa