You know it really bugs the crap out of me that the first thing people say in these situations is dump the bastard and move on. Nobody ever thinks that there are deeper concerns. You all can say that cuz youre not connected to the situation. But the best thing to do is follow your heart. Yes, you have a great risk of getting hurt. But nothing worth it is ever easy or without risk. If more people would get this then the damn divorce rate would be alot lower and there would be alot more happier people! You all need to grow up and realize life is not simple and actually WORK for the things you want.!!!

ok so i need help...there is this guy and we have been dating casually for about 2 months now. he says that he really isnt ready to be in anything serious with me. and yea i do know what that means. but he did say at one point not too long ago that he is in a funk and when he gets out of it he will be ready. the thing is though he doesnt know how long that funk will be. im estimating spring. but anyways. i think i am starting to fall for him and im trying my best not to. so here is my question...how does one stop falling for someone? or what i would rather know how do i get him to start falling for me and want to be with me seriously. i know there can be more to us just by the way he kisses me and how he looks at me. so if anyone has advice id love to hear it! thanks!