How about the scariest thing a stranger has done to you?

About 10 years ago I was on my way home from work, I had my sons in the
back seat of my car and was crossing over the bridge to get home. I
spotted two men on the righthand sidewalk, one kept looking back. First
instinct for me was to get into the left hand lane as I slowed down a
little. And....CRASH. The guy dove into the middle of my windshield and
was wedged up to his waist. I stopped slowly even though I was
completely shocked at what had just occurred. The man was completely
intoxicated, slurring his words, telling me sorry maam, this wasn't your
fault! My kids were crying and scared, my heart raced as I made sure the
man wasn't hurt, I got out of my car and grabbed a blanket I had in my
trunk to cover this man from the cold. The police came, and I had my
children put into the cruiser to protect them from the media that had
shown up. My car was totaled as the fire rescue came and used the jaws
of life to rip open my car like a tin can, to pull this man out of my
windshield, my adrenaline was so high that I felt completely wasted. My
kids were okay but I was worried because of this tramatic event. Later
that evening I was home with my fiancee, the police dept called and told
me the man was fine, only minor cuts and bruises, nothing broken and no
internal injuries, The the cop explained to me that the man was trying
to commit suicide. I was furious, knowing that if I hadn't seen him and
if I hadn't moved over into the left hand lane, my children would have
been further tramatized because his body probably would of came in on my
side of the windshield and probably would have killed in front of them.
my boys and I had nightmares for along time. Scariest thing I ever have
experienced!

I would come help you Lady, but it's almost midnight here and I have to
hit the hay! 5am comes early! Have a restful night everyone!

I don't feel it is anyone's job to say I love you first. It usually just
happens when the time seems right.

I could never understand what the big deal was! Why are people so afraid
to tell someone they love them. And why do some people panic when they
are told this. Live for the moment, you never know what will happen
tomorrow!

Anyways, I don't say it until I feel the love!

Geez, I just thought they didn't like me!

met in a coffee shop

new conversation with my new friend

your charm, it reels me in

...and you're not mine

I glance away for seconds

my face feeling flushed

words playing making me crush

...and you're not mine


inescapable excitement inside

our eyes reflect inner desire

intense kisses stirring the fire

...and you're not mine

when I close my eyes

images remain of lust

reliving your sensuous touch

...and you're not mine

03/02/07

My sons, my nieces and being close to my family! And of course my
friends, they are like family to me also!

I have had several guys cheat on me and what goes around eventually
comes around! Some are already getting their just deserts!

I remember once I made a blueberry pie and accidently put salt in it
instead of the sugar. I was a nanny at the time and the lady of the
house had just put salt in a container that was a little smaller than
the sugar container. It was a disaster! But pretty funny! I was teased
for months.

I agree with youwho1. I know several guys that are married or have
girlfriends and they always try to hook up/cheat behind their better
halfs back! I keep telling them, if you play you'll pay! They'll get
caught eventually.

Not only do guys do this but I have known plenty of women who do it too!
If you can't be faithful why stay in the relationship if you want
someone else?

That nothing last forever. And take the lessons learned and grow from
them!

I think everyone has slept in this morning, thank you, I'll take a cup
of joe.

I'm a Gemini and most of it pertains to me! Libras & Aquarius are my
favorites as partners, they keep my mind stimulated!

Rozey, I agree with you. Especially for the fact I've been chatting with
someone that I really like, for the past 28 days, almost every night
we're on the phone for hours and he lives in Maryland which is 8hrs from
me. But we already have planned to meet sometime in May. If it works
we'll figure something out. I wish you luck in finding someone closer if
it doesn't work out!

I love tattoos. I'm getting my first tatt for my birthday! Both
of my sons are coming with me, one has one tatt already and the younger
one wants to get his first one too.

I have been cheated on in my last 2 relationships. But I have never done
it myself. So here's some stats on cheating!

Infidelity Statistics

Menstuff® has compiled the following information on infidelity
statistics.

It's tough to get a handle on how many of us are having affairs, given
the inherent secrecy.

22 percent of married men have strayed at least once during their
married lives.
14 percent of married women have had affairs at least once during their
married lives.
Younger people are more likely candidates; in fact, younger women are as
likely as younger men to be unfaithful.
70 percent of married women and 54 percent of married men did not know
of their spouses' extramarital activity.
5 percent of married men and 3 percent of married women reported having
sex with someone other than their spouse in the year1997.
22 percent of men and 14 percent of women admitted to having sexual
relations outside their marriage sometime in their past.
90 percent of Americans believe adultery is morally wrong.
50 percent of Americans say President Clinton's adultery makes his moral
standard "about the same as the average married man,'' according to a
Time-CNN poll.
61 percent of Americans thought adultery should not be a crime in the
United states; 35 percent thought it should; 4 percent had no opinion.
17 percent of divorces in the United States are caused by infidelity.
Source: Associated Press
Up to 37% of men and 22% of women admit to having affairs. Researchers
think the vast majority of the millions of people who visit chat rooms,
have multiple "special friends”. Dr. Bob Lanier, askbob.com
Recent studies reveal that 45-55% of married women and 50-60% of married
men engage in extramarital sex at some time or another during their
relationship (Atwood & Schwartz, 2002 - Journal of Couple & Relationship
Therapy)
Only 46% of men believe that online affairs are adultery. DivorceMag
80% think it's Ok to talk with a stranger identified as the opposite
sex. 75% thinks it's ok to visit an adult site.
About 60 percent of men and 40 percent of women will have an affair at
some point in some marriage "Monogamy Myth", Therapist Peggy Vaugn
About 24 percent of men and 14 percent of women have had sex outside
their marriages, according to a Dec. 21, 1998 report in USA Today on a
national study by the University of California, San Francisco.
Affairs affect one of every 2.7 couples, according to counselor Janis
Abrahms Spring, author of After the Affair,as reported by the Washington
Post on March 30, 1999. Ten percent of extramarital affairs last one
day, 10 percent last more than one day but less than a month, 50 percent
last more than a month but less than a year, but 40 percent last two or
more years. Few extramarital affairs last more than four years.
A lesser known fact is that those who divorce rarely marry the person
with whom they are having the affair. For example, Dr. Jan Halper’s
study of successful men (executives, entrepreneurs, professionals) found
that very few men who have affairs divorce their wife and marry their
lovers. Only 3 percent of the 4,100 successful men surveyed eventually
married their lovers.
Frank Pittman has found that the divorce rate among those who married
their lovers was 75 percent. The reasons for the high divorce rate
include: intervention of reality, guilt, expectations, a general
distrust of marriage, and a distrust of the affairee.
One-third of divorce litigation is caused by online affairs. This Is An
Internet E-Mergency, The Fortino Group
Approximately 70% of time on-line is spent in chat rooms or sending
e-mail; of these interactions, the vast majority are romantic in nature.
Dr. Michael Adamse, PhD., co-author of Affairs of the Net: The
Cybershrinks' Guide to Online Relationships
Because of the anonymity, affordability, and accessibility of Internet
sexual resources, the computer can accelerate the transition from "at
risk" to "addicted," as well as the progression of sex addiction in
those with a history of prior sexual compulsivity. Cooper et al Survey
8-10 percent of Internet users become hooked on cybersex. Dr. Bob
Lanier, askbob.com
Spouses who get hooked on Internet porn are a growing complaint among
spouses filing for divorce, according to a survey of 350 divorce
attorneys. "If there's dissatisfaction in the existing relationship, the
Internet is an easy way for people to scratch the itch," said lawyer J.
Lindsey Short, Jr., president of the American Academy of Matrimonial
Lawyers, which conducted the study.
57% of people have used the Internet to flirt.
38% of people have engaged in explicit online sexual conversation and
50% of people have made phone contact with someone they chatted with
online.
Evidence proves there is a high correlation between on-line infidelity
and subsequent real-time sexual affairs.
Evidence supports the existence of disinhibition, accelerated intimacy,
and hyper-sexual online behavior that can easily lead to real-time
infidelity
31% of people have had an online conversation that has led to real-time
sex.
It is estimated that 53% of all people will have one or more affairs
during their lifetime.
Look at the numbers from Playboy Magazine:
-2 out of 3 women and 3 out of 4 men admit they have sexual thoughts
about co-workers.
-86% of men and 81% of women admit they routinely flirt with the
opposite sex.
-75% of men and 65% of women admit to having sex with people they work
with.
The fact is that human beings are NOT monogamous by nature. That means
they cheat.
Experts say that a gut instinct is the most powerful indicator of a
cheating lover. Adultery statistics state that 85% of woman who feel
their lover is cheating are correct. 50% of men who feel their lover is
cheating are right. The first clue is seldom obvious. Typically, it's a
"feeling" that something is different.
Cheating spouse statistics confirm that 50 and 70 percent of married men
(between 38 and 53 million men) have cheated or will cheat on their
wives. One study found that 2/3 of the wives (26 to 36 million women)
whose husbands were cheating had no idea their husbands were having an
affair - largely because they failed to recognize the telltale signs.
According to Annette Lawson, author of Adultery, published in 1989 by
Basic Books. "The various researchers arrive at a general
consensus…suggesting that above one-quarter to about one-half of married
women have at least one lover after they are married in any given
marriage. Married men probably still stray more often than married
women—perhaps from 50 percent to 65 percent by the age of forty."
According to Maggie Scarf, author of Intimate Partners, first published
in 1987 by Random House, re-issued in 1996 by Ballentine.
"Most experts do consider the 'educated guess' that at the present time
some 50 to 65 percent of husbands and 45 to 55 percent of wives become
extramaritally involved by the age of 40 to be a relatively sound and
reasonable one." According to Peggy Vaughan, author of The Monogamy
Myth, first published in 1989 by Newmarket Press (third edition
published 2003).
Conservative infidelity statistics estimate that “60 percent of men and
40 percent of women will have an extramarital affair. These figures are
even more significant when we consider the total number of marriages
involved, since it's unlikely that all the men and women having affairs
happen to be married to each other. If even half of the women having
affairs (or 20 percent) are married to men not included in the 60
percent having affairs, then at least one partner will have an affair in
approximately 80 percent of all marriages. With this many marriages
affected, it's unreasonable to think affairs are due only to the
failures and shortcomings of individual husbands or wives."
Note that the above adultry statistics of the prevalence of affairs were
made more than a decade ago; so based on changes in society during the
intervening years, the current percentage of the population who have had
affairs is probably somewhat HIGHER. For instance, the continuing
increase of women in the workplace and the increase of women having
affairs on the Internet means that the numbers for women having affairs
is probably similar to those for men—about 60%.

I like my job sometimes! But most of the time its too stressful!

Bryan, don't change to make someone else happy. Be yourself and the
right girl will come along and love you for who you are! There are alot
of the bad boys out there and unfortunately girls of all types fall for
that at times, until they realize they want someone who will treat them
better.

I've been single for a while. Had a few lovers but not boyfriend
material!

I'd have to say I'm kindof romantic, and very sensual. I have dated
several Libras, they all were very romantic!

I don't eat liver, sushi, avocados, beets or limes! yuk, yuk, yuk, yuk
and yuk! The weirdest thing I think I ever ate was when I was pregnant
with my oldest son was grilled cheese with grape jelly! LOL