Thanks for the responses, it's always good to hear what other people have dealt with.

"No matter where you go, there you are" Buckaroo Banzai (dumb, but funny movie from the 1980's)

"Soylent Green is people" Charlton Heston(it's my ringtone, I know it's bizarre but at least it's original)

Sorry, I was responding to "Roaming Orator", I thought the forum was "threaded", as you might have noticed I'm really new here.

Thanks for the advice (and I'm sorry for your loss). Euphemisms have always felt wrong to me (I prefer to be direct about important things), but I'm sure your right.

I loved my wife, but it was by no means perfect. I'm completely committed to being honest, that's why I am being up front about my past.

My wife died and I have recently decided that I needed to start meeting people and dating again, I am finding that many women seem suspicious of my motives or doubt my ability to let go of the past. I am up front about the fact that I still (and honestly always will) love my deceased wife. This in no way means I can't fall in love with someone new. Having loved once, I know what I am missing and life is too short to not live it fully.

So my question is this; how do I tell the truth about myself (and how I feel) without scaring someone off (before they even get to know me)?