Let me say it again. You are attracting the wrong kind of men because you are putting up a profile (and probably other signals) that attracts the wrong kind of men.

If you put up a shallow profile, you attract shallow men. Thats the bottom line.


Cancarian,

I looked at your profile. You need to format it. I can't get through the whole thing because I keep losing my place. From what I read however, I recommend putting more positive things towards the beginning of the profile, and negative things towards the end. Starting with the negative makes you seem defensive.

Don't talk about your pictures at all. Just leave that out of your profile.

-ArdentPause

Edit: Sexy, the picture update is a good start.

I am no one you should take advice from about dating but it says you joined this site today? If that is true then give yourself some time to meet some men. Do not go out on a date with them right off that bat too. E-mail back and forth get to know each other then see what happens. Like I said I am not sure but I would guess that would be a better bet for you on finding a good guy and not a dog.

I agree, hell your name is sexy black girl, act like a sexy black girl, be confident and direct, itll help you alot acting sad will only attract the men you dont want, tease, and show theres more to you but you want them to find out for theirself

Hmm nightime is not in my postion second i have been out on dates and personally they all turned out to be about one thing and thats sex im not looking for sex im looking for a real man thats feeling me for me a man thats on my level you feel me and if you had a clue most of my friends are married and happy.

Very good advice!! You need to focus on what you want..not what you DON'T want...it's true and it works...if you believe you're worth it.

Nightime is right on the money. If you have a consistent problem with guys, it isn't them. It's you. Stop whining about how to find great guys, and learn how to find them.

I looked at your profile. All your pictures are the same, and they all feature you in lingerie. On top of it, you have a profile with two lines of text that tell men nothing about you.

Exactly what type of men were you expecting to pick up here? I read several dozen profiles a day, and they all say the same boring thing. "I'm funny and like to have a good time blah blah blah looking for a nice trusting guy blah blah blah I don't have anything interesting in this profile at all"

Every girl on a dating site gets tons of emails a day. But great guys don't email everybody. Only great girls. If you want to get a great guy, you need to learn how to attract one.

If you really have no clue how to do that, go out and buy a few books. Don't just ask your girl-friends either. I'm willing to bet that most of them are in the same situation you are. If you want good advice, go to people who know what they are talking about.

-ArdentPause

P.S. Yes, I am being particularly hard on you. I just hate seeing the same mistakes made again and again by women everywhere. It's a real shame. You have a lot to offer. Show it off.

Common, we gotta bleed to breed. Grow some scales Allen

The questiom is go where they want not have what a man has or needs to maintain their health like a man.

Man ... All CAPS is real hard to read you know.

But to sum it up with my own understanding on the issue ... it's because of human psychology. We humans want things either we cannot get or we take effort to get (something we work at). If something becomes too easy, it loses VALUE (in our mind) and we lose the attraction. It's not just guys, GIRLS do this ALL THE TIME, too.

For example, there's this dress you want SO badly but it's really expensive (lets say ... $2000). You work and work and work and finally spend your whole month's earning to buy this dress. You will VALUE it a lot and treat it very special (in your mind).

But lets say there's a BIG SALE. and now this same dress is sold for $10 and EVERYONE is wearing it on the street ... then it loses VALUE (in your mind) and thus loses attraction (to you). You don't want it anymore.

So, that's the psychology of it. When you ask him out, he feels you are cheap (in his mind!! like the dress) and loses attraction for you.

Well, that's my take on it. I mean, everyone's different. Maybe he's got his own story. But I hope what I wrote makes sense.



Source: I've taken Psychology for 2 years and read a lot of books on human psychology.

really? let me know when you go see a proctologist.....

hey babe im over 260lbs,lol
Would yadate me? Bigger the better I say!!!

reno isn't that far away, and the women in these parts aren't worth a crap.

well sometimes it happens you never expected...my gf's mom was my friend on one site and everything start screwed up...you can say, that was dating site...Spammers on that website start sending nasty bulletins by using my name and i didn't even know that..they use my name to post bulletins and those all bulletins were visible to my friends on that site...so what happen...i got very sweet and cute E-mail from my Gf's mom that i am punk....her daughter is not going to see me anymore...now what i have to do? i didn't do anything and my love life screwed up....any suggestions?

i don't see you knocking down my door askin for a date........

heres some questions for you guys...1) how can you screw your love life without doing anything? 2) how you feel if some dating site screw your love life?