No, seeing as my life is basically over at 22. Disabled, denied benefits but didn't get a notice so missed chance to appeal, toxic family that created my disability in the first place, and to top everything off I've realized the kind of person I would actually marry would never sign up for a dating site is literally my only venue to meet anyone.

Its too important to eliminate, and they absolutely have to be able to provide, over provide even, for both of us so rewording it in that way would give a very misleading message. It sounds like "I can't contribute but I can take care of myself and don't need much" when its really "I can't contribute, you'll have to take care of me completely financially and I need a lot & it all has to be high quality."

Btw I'm most definitely as bad or worse financially than these guys, plus disabled and living in an abusive home, so I really don't give a **** what excuse they have because there just isn't an acceptable one.

I think I'll try reducing the questions to just #3 and #5, then it'll be a bit less like a job app and still let me know who so much as skimmed my profile (versus only looking at my pictures.)

I apologize for not quoting, I'm using my phone.
@klc: I'm not sure about full on polygamy, and I'm not sure it would work anyway. Hence "possibly extendable." As for defining my disabilty, well, its not easy to define, unlike deafness or being unable to use your legs. There's also a lot of political propoganda based stigma around people like me whose disabilities aren't so visible, so I'm not really comfortable saying too much about it where the world can see.
@bushidobillyclub & bravalady: regarding UT, its not as simple as the fact I don't fit in with the culture or the counter cultures, that who I am clashes with the values of the majority, or even that the environment is literally bad for my health. I could never think of it as anything but a place where I was abused, hated, rejected, raped, controlled, shamed, neglected, and hurt. I just want to get away and start a new life the best I can with someone who isn't tainted by this messed up place.

I have a much bigger problem though: hate mail. Everytime I have anything alluding to the fact that poor=not going to work in my profile on any dating site, I get a lot of mail from (apparently auto-rejected) guys that is downright mean. Mingle is no exception. I block them of course but it hurts just to get it in the first place, and is very discouraging. Is there anything I could add to my profile to help prevent this?

I completely redid my profile, what do you guys think?

There's not that many snakes here, just in my dreams.

I know what you mean, an ex in a dream can instantly turn it into a nightmare just by their presence.

Oh, I wish it were as simple as online stalking! THAT I have no problem with.


I want to hear it! I love people's dreams.

I haven't really been bothered by my ex in my dreams lately. Occasionally I'll have nightmares about my creepy stalker, but usually my dreams don't express my fears as people but as -shudder- snakes.

Maybe I'm just in a mood to troll, but when I saw this I decided to change my race to other.

Something else I don't want to see: self-proclaimed geek/nerd looking for trendy not geek. It hurts to see people shoot themselves like that.

Infinite multiverse. Anything along those lines is better than "suddenly there was a bang and the universe/reality existed." ^above cyclic theory, which I will read about in the morning when I'm not sleepy, sounds similar to what I'm trying to say.

How does one "do" confidence or arrogance? There is no motivation I can see - it's something you are. Linking verb not action. The only difference I can see is in the observer's eyes.

(bolded for emphasis) Really? The best? I don't think so, I think it's kind of a "the world is flat" theory, you know, allegedly the one where if asked what the world was on top of the reply was a giant turtle which, if asked what it was on top of, was ultimately an infinite number of giant turtles. The very title of this topic is such a question and infinite nothingness is the giant turtles. Don't know if you've heard, but the world is round and floating! I feel an infinite multiverse theory is much better.

And the notion that the scientific community won't scoff at plausible theories with supporting evidence is misguided. In my experience, my grandpa being a physicist by college degree, scientists and such intellectuals can be some of the biggest stick-in-the-mud know-it-alls you will ever meet! Grandpa would rather call Steven Hawking thick than reconsider his most loved theories.

Not so, I stated that I don't think there's a difference between arrogance and confidence. My post was just a few above yours if you'd like to read it.

I don't think there is a difference. One man's confidence is another's arrogance. I think we tend to see arrogance when we don't know where the confidence could possibly be coming from. My ex would be the best case-in-point I could give. He exudes confidence, so much that everyone assumes he's completely arrogant. But what they don't see is how much and what he's overcome. He earned every bit of that confidence and is able to be a support to others with it. I see that so I think of him as confident where others see arrogant. Potato, potato. (potehto potahto)

Some of the stuff you guys are saying is great, I just think it's the difference between confidence/arrogance and humility, not confidence and arrogance. Humble confidence? Sounds like an oxymoron to me!

Adjectives rather than a real description. "I'm fun, charming and witty, looking for activity partner, beautiful." That's nice, I'm ME and you can decide for yourself what you think I am just as I will decide for myself what I think you are, assuming we ever get around to this unnamed activity you want to do with girls that apparently look something like me since, because you messaged first, I can only assume you find beautiful.

James Phelps. Is he popular enough for you?

That's not written in a way that I've ever seen before, but I still recognize it as my favorite bible quote. I Corinthians 13:4-7 and the best definition of pure untainted love there is. You want true love, learn to love in this way. It's not as easy as you'd think.

Absolutely! When David Archuleta (sp?) deflected compliments, my family bragged about his humility. A few years previous when I did the same thing after a talent show performance they told me I was rude.

Exactly. I know very personally just how hard it is to get gov. assistance of any kind, even when you are truly unable to work and in desperate need of help. I find that the people that spew about gov. moochers also commonly espouse that most people receiving aid are such people, but can't name any such person of whom they know well either. One commentator's interpretation is probably true:

Exactly. As seen in this thread, there are other ways to see it besides negative. If I want a guy who wants a woman who knows what SHE wants and goes after it, looks like I've got the bait covered.

That little snippet is becoming an extra insurance though, as it's kind of obvious anyone from my state that messages me didn't read my profile. Starting to look like I didn't need the insurance I put in.

I think it's good, it just needs more. What makes you a country guy? What does respect look like to you? - might be a good place to start.

I've improved and expanded it, hopefully for the better. I've had the flu, but I'll get more pics up this week too.