I've been here before on this one, but the sad thing is I think I'm losing my grip on my own sanity. This is kinda long so bare with me if you would.

So whats off limits here? I've got alot on my chest but not sure of what I can and cannot say here..

Yea I know my relationship is a total loss but believe it or not some of guys aren't like other guys... Yea I know crying over it doesn't do me any good but where she was basicly my twin in everything there isn't much I can do that don't remind me of her. And I'm not here to cry about it I was asking for peoples advice on this, I was curious to see what others would of done or what people would say about this. I got your input, you would just go find another girl... I've done the same before but this one was alot different. Like I said be in my same exact shoes, get your head all messed up, wear your heart on your shoulder, and pour your soul into a relationship then get cheated on and dumped... then come back and tell me how it feels, trust me you won't want to just go shopping again. I probably will a long time down the road but after the mental damage that was done I don't think I want to associate with anymore women right now. I know I'm not the only one thats been hurt ether, thats why I'm asking here... people are single they have had expierience and I just like to hear what others have done so that maybe I can heal myself....

I am a guy, no I'm not ready for another girlfriend, and no I'm not a player and don't plan on doing that kind of stuff untill I'm married. I'm a honest guy, a gentleman and a nice guy. Don't tell me to stop crying about it because you would have to be in my shoes and get messed up this bad to understand how bad it hurts...

I don't think it was that, she was basicly my twin in every aspect.

And for the anyone questioning the hurt subject... Not once did I ever say or do anything bad to her, I would never do that to anyone. I was always calling her "Pretty girl" and the only way I can think I maybe hurt her was I was depressed. But after she started seeing him and she played mind games with me and I was getting confused I admit to telling her off and was pretty hurtfull with words.

Haha Chevy, you won't find that in Utah and sadly I don't think that would make me feel better but thanks for trying.

Thank you Mrright101 and everyone else. I'm still real flustered though, I had no real way of winning at all. I wanted to trust her, I wanted to be there for her but after she told me I hurt her, I wasn't in the condition to care for her, and a few things like that I started to pull off fast. I don't know what I did that hurt her, I got down in the dumps alot because she would shoot me down about certain things and well she broke my heart alot and as hard as I tryed to not show it I couldn't. I feel like this horrible guy, for three months she told me "You have nothing to worry about, hes just a friend" or "If you worry you'll lose me, if you don't you won't" or "Your better than him" then in the end after three months of heartache and fighting my own jealousy "I ended it a long time ago". I told her off twice after she hurt me deep, after I told her off I felt horrible. The very last five things she said that made me hurt and well feel like a loser was, "I need a deep kind of love" as in mine wasn't good enough, "You hurt me on and off throughout the months (probably when I was in the dumps from her denying me or letting me down (aka moving the relationship up like kissing or a promise ring) or from when we planned things and she didn't show up), "Everything you did was for you and you wasn't thinking of me at all", "I need him because your not well enough to help me with this issue", and the last hurtfull one.... "I ended it a long time ago" (after she got my hopes up for three months. I tryed to leave alot but I didn't have the heart to hurt her by just going away and cutting communication lines but I was also taking into consideration how bad it was tearing me up and hurting me she told me it was my own fault for hurting that she wasn't doing it, she told me to not listen to my feelings. I would tell her "Go have fun with your new friends you don't need me anymore..." then she would tell me "there not those kinds of friends"... yada yada I could keep going on... in the end I lost and I lost alot more than I wanted to I feel like half of me is gone and that someone is squeezing my heart everyday, its rare to find a night where I don't hurt or cry.. I don't think there has been one.. I'm still real flustered though, I had no real way of winning at all. I wanted to trust her, I wanted to be there for her but after she told me I hurt her, I wasn't in the condition to care for her, and a few things like that I started to pull off fast. I don't know what I did that hurt her, I got down in the dumps alot because she would shoot me down about certain things and well she broke my heart alot and as hard as I tryed to not show it I couldn't. I feel like this horrible guy, for three months she told me "You have nothing to worry about, hes just a friend" or "If you worry you'll lose me, if you don't you won't" or "Your better than him" then in the end after three months of heartache and fighting my own jealousy "I ended it a long time ago". I told her off twice after she hurt me deep, after I told her off I felt horrible. The very last five things she said that made me hurt and well feel like a loser was, "I need a deep kind of love" as in mine wasn't good enough, "You hurt me on and off throughout the months (probably when I was in the dumps from her denying me or letting me down (aka moving the relationship up like kissing or a promise ring) or from when we planned things and she didn't show up), "Everything you did was for you and you wasn't thinking of me at all", "I need him because your not well enough to help me with this issue", and the last hurtfull one.... "I ended it a long time ago" (after she got my hopes up for three months. I tryed to leave alot but I didn't have the heart to hurt her by just going away and cutting communication lines but I was also taking into consideration how bad it was tearing me up and hurting me she told me it was my own fault for hurting that she wasn't doing it, she told me to not listen to my feelings. I would tell her "Go have fun with your new friends you don't need me anymore..." then she would tell me "there not those kinds of friends"... yada yada I could keep going on... in the end I lost and I lost alot more than I wanted to I feel like half of me is gone and that someone is squeezing my heart everyday, its rare to find a night where I don't hurt or cry.. I don't think there has been one.

First off lets say you knew someone for about a year total and during that year you was b/f g/f for 8 months. Lets say your head over heals for this girl, you love her a ton and would do anything to make her yours but then you happen to run into another guy flirting with her and she is responding back alot to what look like flirts to you but her and her sister claims its not flirting. What would you do in that situation?

Number two...
What do you do when the one who can make you stop crying is the one that made you cry?

Well to be honest I probably screwed up and guys laugh it up if you want, I got jealous I felt threatened as in I was going to lose her and paniced. During the whole relationship I was truthfull all the time and I wouldn't let something bother me but in the end she dumped me after I confronted her about the flirting and well for three months went through heck, I have a hard time not crying. I can't get her off my mind and I know its over and shes probably having the time of her life with him (1 week after she dumped me she started seeing him, but I told her the day she dumped me to go ahead and go date if thats what she wanted to do (I was upset and heartbroken, I didn't really mean it and I was panicy) so I feel at fault all the way). I wear my heart on my shoulder and take everything to heart, for three months she drug me on while I knew he had kissed her and my heart was breaking to know my dream girl was with another man and in the end... she said some things that totaly broke me.

As for the second question she was the one that made me cry. I really loved this girl alot dispite how bad she hurt me, theres something in me that felt like she didn't want this to happen. To clarify how bad things was and how confused I was I tryed to take my life once because I didn't know how to win, I didn't want to hurt her by backing off (she guilt tripped me every time I tryed to or made me feel like a bad guy) but at the same time I wanted to back away because it was breaking my heart. She told me in the end that my love wasn't good enough for her, that everything I did was just for myself and that I wasn't thinking about her. And I did sit down and asked her "Do you want us to work?" She replied "Yes I do" I didn't ask her to stop talking to the guy, I asked for a second chance as her b/f and I did ask for her to please stop dating him (not to defriend him). She replied "You can't ask me to choose between two friends", anyways I really feel at fault and well I'm stuck here holding my cold heart.

I don't mean this as anything bad and I'm not here to make anyone feel bad for me or anything, I'm more or less looking for a way to heal.

Probably because I'm a nice guy and am to young, but most likely because I can't trust women anymore and feel like someones crushing my heart everyday and every minute. I go out on a limb and do everything I can to make them happy and or so they enjoy themselves and I get denied in the end or cheated on.... more or less cheated on.

I'll believe you when I see it, lets see... 4 times I've been cheated on and left for another guy, and 2 times I've been used and left? I pretty much dump my heart and soul into trying to get them to like me and to pamper them etc.... Buy them dinner, take them to a movie, let them chose what to do, seen them at college, treated her roomate, her, and her sister to dinner many times, bought them things for holidays, did special things on holidays, etc.... and in the end they always leave me for the other guy and make me out to feel like I'm a piece of crap. I've never once told a girl anything bad at all when I was seeing them, and in the end this girl told me I hurt her, that I pushed her away, and that everything I did was for myself and not for her at all. So I believe I've pretty much lost hope in women... my heart has felt like someones been crushing it for three months now. Therapy and depression meds don't do a dang thing ether there pointless and are just costing me money.

Well at least she didn't keep you on a leash after that at least she broke it off. My ex keep me on a leash for three months after our breakup claiming she was giving me another chance and getting all my morals up and telling me how I was so much better than this other guy... I got tired of it and told her off (it was hard as hell cause I really loved this girl alot) but it was tearing me up inside to know she was with this other guy, and her best friend rubbed it in my face that he kissed her. I think I would of rather been dumped than drug on and poisoned for three months now I feel alot worse. Anyways goodluck with that man my heart go's out to the good people that gets played, hurt, or used I know the hurt and pain only to well, I don't think women want nice guys anymore, they want the cocky self centered guys that have lots of confidence but no respect for the women... thats my two bits.

Night kat and zack

Big quote :P lol yea its a huge thing but at least I'm being honest.

Haha your like me I know how it is, sad thing is I was able to hold myself down and was willing to wait for this last girl but then I got upset when I seen her friend doing some heavy flirting with her and her flirting back, I guess jealousy was a no no and she dumped me and a week later started dating him. I was with her for a year.

That is one sweet picture lol I have that somewhere in my collection.

haha I bet you would have a easier time finding people to date than I would :)

Stuff you probably never heard of :) lol and alot of common stuff. But I'm a pc gamer, a nerd, I like anime (japanese animations), I'm a picky eater, I like cars and anything electronic, I'm not much of a outdoors guy but I do like camping, fishing, 4-wheeling and that general stuff but not a hunter and I'll do the outdoor yardwork and stuff... its only natural for guys to mow the lawn and stuff :P umm.. and I can be a purve so thats where it becomes even harder lol I live in Utah alot of people around here thrive on religion and alot of things I like, play, or do are no no's.

haha thats funny :) I'm not really gonna be dating for a while, I've been hurt pretty bad by this last girl. But I'm a shy guy and well I would like to meet a girl that has simalar interests like mine which is actually pretty hard to find.

I'm talking match.com or yahoo personals, or even perfectmatch.com stuff like those. I've tryed about everything lol, well lets just say when you start getting frustrated and start to give in you'll do anything to just find someone that might be willing to date you lol, most the girls around where I live all think I'm probably a freak, and it doesn't matter what I do in the end I get dropped off the face of the planet and left for another dude lol, I'm just trying to find the right one for me :) I have lots of love to give but got to find someone that will be willing to love me back.