I do think that he loves me, because of how he treats me.. I just think he's affraid to admit it to himself, and if that's the case, and I do say it, that could scare him off again!

this is what I'm affraid of anyway...

and what if it's still just infatuation??

but we both do so much for each other, and show so much appreciation for one another too.. isn't this what love's all about??

I'm still trying to figure this all out myself??? I feel for you, I too am in the same boat u r! I have a post if you care to read it, "Love? when do you know it's real?" (something like that, lol!)

Hiya all!!!!!!!!!!!

I live in a suburb of chicago too! nice to meet you all!

It's funny, where I live we have bears and packer fans!! all around us, and there always rioting lol! it's all in good fun tho

wow! really??

how about cleaning up the backyard from your pet dog after it's been 3 months of snow??? YUK!!

he's allready saying things like this to me.. but is that the same as saying "I love you" ??

what if it's too soon for him to besure about?? what if he feels rushed again?

how should I go about asking him to not make him feel pressured in anyway??

btw- thanks for your advise too!

I agree with that.. I do feel that now, there's been a part of him that is ready to say it, but is affraid too. He says things like "I love how good you are to me!" or "I love how much you care about me" He never used the word LOVE at all until a week or so ago..

so what does this mean??

he is only dating me, and I am meeting his family for thanksgiving, and he's also coming to over to visit my family again (he's allready met my family once b4) but this will be the 1st time I meet his family..

doesn't all this mean that he's committed to me? or am I reading too much into things?

we are soooooo connected when together! and he's very open and honest with me about his feelings, thoughts, and dreams..

just not the "L" word... this is all so confusing!!

ephraimglass

Yes! I agree!! My bf has been working allot of hours lately and so I've been supporting him by letting him have space when he needs it, by not calling except to maybe leave a message to say hi, making sure that he's not neglecting his friends too, and offering to run erronds ect. to help if I can. So far, he hasn't had me do anything for him, but I have given him space. I know things like this are important to a man, so I know I am expressing my love for him through my patience and understanding.

Thanks for your advise. I do want so much to tell him how much he means to me. It is amazing just how much love I have for him allready! All I have to do is touch the top of his head, run my fingers down his hair, and feel a tremendous amount of love! I can just lay there in his arms, listen to his heart beat, and feel so whole and alive! I have never felt all of this before! I feel so extremely blessed! and I want him to know it!!

I did something sooooo stupid! and that was only 2 weeks into our relationship, after a few drinks and feeling a little tipsy, I told him I loved him. He hugged me, but didn't say it back. Then the very next day, he broke up with me, and it took me 3 weeks of patiently waiting before I heard from him again. He gave me another chance, and that's been 5 months ago. I'm still affraid to say these words, because of what happened before, he didn't say it back, and he ran away!

What if that happens again???????????????????????????

Hey!

What about a corn mill??? ooooh-wee!!! yuk!!!

I can try that, but not sure if that will work. WOW! why does this have to be sooooooooooooo hard?????

Ok.. ok..

I'm 35yrs old (female) and I'm seeing a guy who's 39, now he's been hurt pretty bad, and had told me at the beginning of our relationship 5 months ago, that he is now affraid to give his heart to anyone.. He has said that he cares for me, and tells me that he "loves" the fact that I care for him too. but that's as far as it goes! I'm meeting his family over Thanksgiving though.. I have tried to ask him one other time about his feelings, and he said he was unsure.. I know I'm infatuated, and I really really care about him! We are completely committed to each other, and have allready had a few hard times to go thru.. But still not completely sure..

I feel it may be, and I want to tell him.. But does a woman say the "L" word 1st??? or is that not proper? I'm affraid he'll run away..

OH YEAH!!!!

I think so too... but I'm still worried... the girl should NEVER say it 1st, should she?

I think this is infatuation, and lust..

I did hear from my speech teacher something very similar to this. He had said also that love was not an emotion so much as it is an action.. where you are willing to struggle with the person you're with. not giving up on each other, and being committed to that one individual..

Yeah awesome song!!

anything from Air Supply?? (actually I do kinda like them )

What is the worst smell you've ever smelt??

For myself, I would have to say, spoiled milk! YUK!! Although, I have heard that a rotting corpse is worse yet!!!!

How does someone know for sure they are "in love"? I mean, there's the infatuation stage... then it starts to grow into "real love" but when do you know for sure that happens? How do you really know when to say "I Love You" and it's completely and undoubtly true??

I wouldn't want to say it and be wrong..

One of my favorite songs is by Nickelback called "Goodbye".

What is one of your favorite songs??