Man ... All CAPS is real hard to read you know.

But to sum it up with my own understanding on the issue ... it's because of human psychology. We humans want things either we cannot get or we take effort to get (something we work at). If something becomes too easy, it loses VALUE (in our mind) and we lose the attraction. It's not just guys, GIRLS do this ALL THE TIME, too.

For example, there's this dress you want SO badly but it's really expensive (lets say ... $2000). You work and work and work and finally spend your whole month's earning to buy this dress. You will VALUE it a lot and treat it very special (in your mind).

But lets say there's a BIG SALE. and now this same dress is sold for $10 and EVERYONE is wearing it on the street ... then it loses VALUE (in your mind) and thus loses attraction (to you). You don't want it anymore.

So, that's the psychology of it. When you ask him out, he feels you are cheap (in his mind!! like the dress) and loses attraction for you.

Well, that's my take on it. I mean, everyone's different. Maybe he's got his own story. But I hope what I wrote makes sense.



Source: I've taken Psychology for 2 years and read a lot of books on human psychology.

Also, I don't date girls who smoke, who doesn't have compassion towards animals, who drinks a lot/do drugs, spoiled and acts like a princess, gold diggers, who's not honest and lies a lot, and all sorts of things.

but see, Mandy, you are the opposite of all those things, aren't you?

Well, like I told you before, there's always some problems ... age difference, crazy mother who listens to our phone conversation on the other line, the girl acts like a spoiled little princess, and this and that. Or you can just take the second part ... we didn't really "click".

1. Play my wrestling action figures, creating imaginative names, new creative moves, and record all the results like a nerd.

2. Get obsessed with a girl, give a pillow her name and lay on my bed hugging the pillow tightly while thinking of her and calling out her name. Oh, and roll around the bed while doing so.

3. Browsing beautiful female celebrities and models online, saving the pictures and giving them ratings ... yes, I've got a collection

1. I used to be very shy ...
2. The college I just got out of was famous for breaking couples up ... due to work load and stress.
3. I am too busy starting up my company that I have no time to meet new people.
4. I'm too picky that all the girls I dated with, I wasn't absolutely satisfied with and just didn't "click".
5. Because someone special is waiting for me ...

I have notification set ON but somehow I stopped getting them when people send me messages. I even have JustSayHi.com under my SAFE LIST with Hotmail. so what's going on?

woah .. I've got lots. but umm .. lets go with "In The End" by Linkin Park.

what up? I'm looking to meet some interesting, cool, and fun people here. please check out my profile, I think my "about me" thing is WAY too long right now. even though I mean what I wrote, but still ... thinking about cutting it down a bit. what do you think?

nice to meet you all.