Hey man! i'm worse than bored..I'm WORKING!

Contrary to what some men might think on here, I would never want an abusive man, and why they even think women do want them is beyond any reasoning that I can figure out. A good man to me would be compassionate, outgoing, very sensitive and not arrogant.

woa woa woa mrose... i care..... i like my man to look like a clown, taking all that time, makeup, shoes, frilly suits... oh just thinking about it.... drives me wild

It's not shallow, it's just male....statistically men are attracted to females due to physical characteristics more than anything else (something like 60% to 80%), where women are more attracted to communication skills ( 40% to 60%). This is not to say that men can't overcome this, just that it's instinctual. And when you realize that beauty can be found in other areas that make up someones whole persona, hopefully you will overcome that instinctual behavior...I'm not trying to be rude, just think your limiting yourself. Very few people are both beautiful & honorable, or sexy & intelligent, or your idea of perfect (which could change from day to day). BTW, I want the same things , too, but I just am being realistic.

you know what you want and you shouldn't question your reasons why with other people. Everyone is going to have a different opinion of why which will just confuse you more. Your not being shallow your being you! love yourself for what you are and who you are. Screw what everyone else thinks of you. I am the same way you are and I'm notashaned of it. I like to be wit a guy that im physically attracted to and mentally attracted to. I tried a relationship wit a guy i was not really physically attracted to and trust me there was dust piling up in the bedroom. I couldn't get myself to have sex with him. I obviously told him it wasnt working and that im sorry but i just couldnt do it. It made me realize and learn something about myself that i do need to be physically attracted to the person too in order for me to be with them. It's who you are and you know that about yourself. I see people post comments and if it's something you don't like your posted comment is right under there's defending why you are the way you are. LOL just stop it already you know what you like what you don't like so accept it. SO what if people call you shallow or not shallow. IF i invested my time "listening" to what others thought about me or my ways or what i believed in or not" I'd be 1 miserable girl!!! My advice to you stop worrying what others think of you and worry about what you think of yourself!!!

I don't know if people are being shallow or just dealing with human nature. For the most part men are visual and an attractive women is a hard to resist. But, what is on the inside is important for the long term. I guess in a perfect world we want both.

Sex is what brings men and women together as mates. Without sex and attraction doesn't that just make us friends?

The whole relationship issue can get quite complicated.

You guys are young, and you will learn that beauty is only skin deep. Sure you can have a beautiful girl on the outside...but what if she is ugly on the inside? What would you rather have..inner beauty or outer beauty?? You can only parade a woman around for so long!!
How do you know that these single women with children are even looking for someone to raise their chilren? I am sure that right there is going to offend a lot of women with children! I myself do not want someone to raise my boys! My boys do have a father...why do they need another one?? Please explain this one to me!!!
I do think both of you guys are shallow...all you talk about is looks. Let me ask you this...what do you have to offer that beautiful woman? Do you think you have good enough looks to keep that woman interested in you??

looks aren't everything guys. what happens one day if that beautiful woman of yours is disfigured in some kind of accident???