hi there-
I just joined tonight so I thought I'd say hi to you too...

<----Michelle

I thank you all for your advice - I read all these to his father and we are going to really try a new approach..

Thanks ---

well yeah!!!!! theres a familiar face- glad to see ya Mark...

hey everyone,
I have 3 boys ages 16,15 and 5 and never did I have this issue with my two older boys-
Jake is 5 and in kindergarten and seems pretty well adjusted except that he poops his pants still- he does not do this for anyone but his father and I and Grandma that did his daycare- not in school ever and just with us- if he knows he is going to get a new toy or a treat he does well for say like 3 days and then does it again.
I am at the point where I am thinking we need professional help on this- but I will see if anyone here has ever had this issue also-
His Father and I divorced when he was just over 1 but we get along well and share custody of him-
He really has no excuse for it- his Dad was spanking him for it but i have stopped this as it did not seem to do anything but escalate the issue-

Please help....

this site seems like alot of fun so far and it scares me because I have been accused of being online alot at the OTHER site posting in forums so this might mean I will just be more of an addict...

what a nice welcome by the way- you all seem so friendly...

Just thought I'd add this in case anyone has ever wondered about buddhisim...

The Four Noble Truths
The First Noble Truthis the existence of suffering. Birth is painful and death is painful; disease and old age are painful. Not having what we desire is painful and having what we do not desire is also painful.

The Second Noble Truth is the cause of suffering. It is the craving desire for the pleasures of the senses, which seeks satisfaction now here, now there; the craving for happiness and prosperity in this life and in future lives.

The Third Noble Truth is the ending of suffering. To be free of suffering one must give up, get rid of, extinguish this very craving, so that no passion and no desire remain.

The Fourth Noble Truth leads to the ending of all pain by way of the Eightfold Path.

The Eightfold Path
The first step on that path is Right Views: You must accept the Four Noble Truths and the Eightfold Path.

The second is Right Resolve: You must renounce the pleasures of the senses; you must harbor no ill will toward anyone and harm no living creature.

The third is Right Speech: Do not lie; do not slander or abuse anyone. Do not indulge in idle talk.

The fourth is Right Behavior: Do not destroy any living creature; take only what is given to you; do not commit any unlawful sexual act.

The fifth is Right Occupation: You must earn your livelihood in a way that will harm no one.

The sixth is Right Effort: You must resolve and strive heroically to prevent any evil qualities from arising in you and to abandon any evil qualities that you may possess. Strive to acquire good qualities and encourage those you do possess to grow, increase, and be perfected.

The seventh is Right Contemplation: Be observant, strenuous, alert, contemplative, and free of desire and of sorrow.

The eighth is Right Meditation: When you have abandoned all sensuous pleasures, all evil qualities, both joy and sorrow, you must then enter the four degrees of meditation, which are produced by concentration.

Buddhist Precepts
There are five precepts taught by Buddhism that all Buddhists should follow:

Kill no living thing.
Do not steal.
Do not commit adultery.
Tell no lies.
Do not drink intoxicants or take drugs. (working on not drinking)
Other precepts apply only to monks and nuns:

Eat moderately and only at the appointed time.
Avoid that which excites the senses.
Do not wear adornments.
Do not sleep in luxurious beds. (I can't live w/o my 800 thread count sheets)
Accept no silver or gold.
Sacred Scriptures
In Theravada (Southeast Asian) Buddhism, there are three groups of writings considered to be holy scripture, known as the "Three Baskets" (Tripitaka). The Vinaya Pitaka (discipline basket) contains rules for the higher class of Buddhists; the Sutta Pitaka (teaching basket) contains the discourses of Buddha; and the Abidhamma Pitaka (metaphysical basket) contains Buddhist theology.

Mahayana (Chinese, Japanese, Vietnamese, etc.) Buddhism contains an incredibly large amount of holy writings, over five thousand volumes. The oldest scriptures are based on Sanskrit, while others have been written in Nepalese, Tibetan, and Chinese. There are no clear limits as to what should be admitted as scripture, so thousands of writings on the topic have been admitted.

thanks everyone- dozer is a great dane... I miss him dearly- he belongs to an ex.

Hey everyone,
I just joined tonight... some of my friends from another site joined and so I am trying this out- I love to post in the forums and hope it's as fun here as it is there..

Looking forward to making new friends,

Michelle

I would wish for all my friend's who are sick to be well again...