I think the biggest problem women encounter is men not being emotionally available.
That doesn't necessarily mean they're players, I think mostly not. But they haven't healed from their past relationship(s), not even 15-20+ yrs later.

That's the biggest issue I hear of that women encounter. They have healed, are empowered, feel good about life and want a great new love relationship. But to find a man who's in that place too...

Men wanting sex only depends on what dating site you're on. If you avoid such sites you rarely encounter that.

When the say things like "I'm only here for the forums..."

Even if a man is looking for sex, this is not a big problem. Sex is a level of critical trust between partners. It's bad if a man is looking for a sex doll.