Right now I'm just being careful. I get attached very easily. If someone tells me that they are interested, I'm going to want to take it further and start developing a fondness for her.

I have come across several women who give false information just to be nice. Who say something along the lines of "I like you, you're a great guy" just so they won't hurt my feelings or something, idk. I have fallen for too many situations like this only to find out that she really DIDN'T think that of me and that my fondness and desire to take it further has become nothing but an agrivation to her.

So by waiting, I'm finding that she must not really be that interested, as she hasn't bothered to try and keep the contact through her own initiative. It's not because of immature nervousness. I really just don't want to waste any more of my time and attention on someone if it's not going to go anywhere.

Not so sure on the accuracy of my "test" though because I keep getting the same results from those who say "I'm interested"...



Well that's kind of hard. I don't like people who do this and surely don't want to practice the same in my own life. I'm really getting sick of introducing myself over and over again.

Blame it on living in a small isolated town for the first 19 years of my life. A place where everything always stayed the same, people didn't move in and out, you kept your friends forever and were loyal to them and didn't take yourself away from them by going and making more new friends. In the rare event that someone new did move into town (maybe happened a few times a year), they were met with much scrutiny and territorial hostility.

I used to think that was how it was everywhere. Now that I've moved away, I've found the exact opposite lol!! But still can't help feeling that a person who lets go quickly and continuously makes the effort to meet new people is someone to be looked down upon.

I would like to change my attitude but it doesn't seem to be budging

Thank you all for responding and yes, my instincts are probably right.

Cooking ang cleaning and etc are essential life functions. My potential life partner (who I am looking for via dating) should know how to do these things and be willing to share the workload. If she doesn't know how to cook basic meals and clean up after herself, well that's a big red flag.

I'm not looking to be someone's maid, and don't expect that from her either. How much depends on the situation. If and when it gets to the point where we live together, I need someone who will do their share. For example, If she wants to stay home all the time and not work, then I think it would be fair for her to take care of most of the housework. If she's working or something else then we figure it out from there :)

She better be willing to contribute something to US as a couple who share a life, not two people who just happen to live together.

I'm not really interested in manipulation by playing the waiting game to make someone miss me anymore. But this does keep on happening so I wonder if I'm doing something wrong. How can I get someone to think of me without it being a game?

So I've made a few "we'll call them friends for now" on here, but after the first few emails and even one I met in person, I don't really hear back from them unless I make the effort to get thier attention. I've met some women who said they were interested in me, but unless I contact them first, I don't hear anything. I've given them time and space and it has been a few weeks and it seems like I get forgotten. I feel like I'm doing all the work. I have no problem attracting attention, but how do I keep that attention without seeming weird or clingy? What do you guys think is going on? What do I say to the people who I've left alone for a few weeks and they haven't tried to contact me anymore?

Wow I don't hate any of those things.

Hmmm I wonder the same thing because I never see any posts like this from women. Why is that?

Trust has to be earned. It's not an easy thing to get. I used to trust everyone unless they gave me a reason not to, but not anymore, people must consistently work very hard to earn my trust these days.

. Well all of us here must not be too bright when it comes to relationships since we are still single . And firefly, maybe you should change your s/n to firebreathergal or something like that .

Where's my damsel in distress?? lol

Wouldn't it still be rude if someone was talking crap in a language you could understand? At least they are respecting you enough to keep it to themselves.

Hmm I will just be me, to many different opinions here. I guess there is no such thing as a universal prince charming bc he is different for everyone. Sweetie and honey works for me though

But then again I must remember that I've learned from this thread that it's not so important to be prince charming.

Nor is there enough room on my profile to prove it

Well I can't think of any reason why I would find someone in my home holding a conversation in a foriegn language. There are a few of Hispanic decent at work who sometimes speak in complete Spanish to one another. It doesn't offend me, as it seems to me that it is just easier for them to comunicate in thier native language. I have noticed that some cultures have things that are unique to them and there is no way to express it in English.

I meant try to be a prince charming What does it take?

Hey at least I can try!

If you can design a website then I know you can do this. It's one of the easiest things to do on a vehicle. Its just like putting your belt on when you get dressed in the morning (kinda haha) Don't take such an easy job to a shop and pay more for the same belt and someone else to put it on, you obviously need to save your money. The belt turns the alternator which charges your battery so it is possible that the battery is dead in which case you will need a jumpstart, then let it run an hour or a long drive so the battery can charge back up. You can do it.

The belt may have broken and flew off, they do wear out eventually, especially if it is the original belt from 98. They are ment to be replaced around every 50,000 miles or so. Other possible causes are that your tensioner broke (unlikely) or one of the pulleys is cutting belts. But Im sure the belt just wore out. Go to your local parts store, you need to know the year and brand of your truck as well as which engine you have. Ask for a serpentine belt, it's $20-$50. Theres a diagram under the hood showing you how it goes on. One of the pulleys is on a springloaded arm that moves to allow you to get the belt on. It should be easy for you to find. The spring keeps the belt tight. You will need a 3/8 drive rachet, a prybar, or a large screwdriver. If you don't have any then go buy one. These are basic tools that everyone should own. I don't know how I would survive without my tools. Anyway, the springloaded arm is tight, you can't do it with your hands, so pry it around so that you can get the belt on.