In case you never noticed - All religions are built on hypocrisies, false logic, double standards, and an inability to accommodate the observable nature of reality and the the existence of other faiths.

This is one of an infinite number of inconsistencies.

Why do religions promote interpreting observation to fit the belief, rather than re-interpreting the belief to fit the observation?

No attack - Just an opinion.

Yeah, rules like that are silly. You can't go into a situation with a guide list - you should be more open and comfortable with your partner and yourself to deal with things as they come.

No one wants anyone to anything he or she doesn't feel comfortable with, but its a very awkward context (for me) when the whole process is spelled out like a procedure with rules and regulations.

Intimacy is about comfort and reciprocity. Its unfortunate that some of us have experiences which taint our approach and leave us jaded, but setting up explicit rules would only alienate someone like myself. I am not saying I advocate and seek any of the unwanted list items in any way, I agree with many of them. But the key is comfort, openness, and a general reciprocity where no one walks away feeling short changed or let down.

I understand this is an incredibly difficult dynamic to find or establish, so it may be somewhat unrealistic - but whatever. I just thought I'd share my opinion.