I think its an over generalization.

people have their pre judgment of what an experience will be or pre conceived ideas of attractiveness, and its hard to stray from them to take a more person by person approach.

some people may ignore a cop, for instance, because they have the pre conceived idea of the danger it may bring in their life or the risk of losing that person sooner, even if that individual cop may not be on a dangerous route or may be a peaceful person, there are too many options to find out about THAT individual or their circumstance.

the same thing with single parents, some people have the pre conceived notion of what will or wont be expected of them and what they can or cannot expect from a single parent, and there are too many options for them to stop and find out what that Individuals actual circumstance or expectations are.

we weed out people for the sake of simplicity, I think, and we probably all miss out on some great matches because of this. but priorities will remain priorities and people will continue to make those quick and subjective judgments, against our ideal of what we want in a relationship.


I pretty much 'ignore' single men because of my preconceptions about their preconceptions ...lol. My 'preference' is someone who is a parent. But I remain aware that it is possible I could meet and fall for someone who is not, because they are the TYPE of individual I can fall for.