I know it would be waaaay easier to have one surefire answer that explains it all and works for every situation but does that work for any other situation. What if I said there are are genuinely some things that have a grey area. What if I said I 100% love and respect my wife but because of our backgrounds the one somewhat incompatible area is in the bedroom. Now part of my respect is how far my conservative wife has come to make me happy. But can you say it’s irreprejensible that I discreetly and safely scratch an itch when necessary to keep from doing something dumb, reckless or that could potentially break her heart? Have you wondered why it seems to be predominantly Catholic priests that are committing atrocities on children? You think it’s a coincidence that they have been taught to deny the feelings and lust that they can’t quench with a wife? Ladies out there, I’d love and open dialogue...only caveat is that if proven wrong, you must submit to an evening of lust that my wife will never know about!