sorry to go on... and on... and on... and... on! I had a friend who's son used to smack his head on the floor over and over during a tantrum. She put a blanket down, threw loads of cushions down, put him on it and let him get on with it. He didnt hurt himself and she wasnt involving herself in his anger so he didnt get more wound up.

If he follows you fine, attention is the most precious thing for a toddler and withholding it is the most effective punishment, reward good ignore bad. Let him follow you but dont look at him or talk to him when he does, if he becomes agressive to you i would then go to timeout. But there is not harm in overpraising for good behaviour and at the end of the day he has to learn its not acceptible to act that way in a situation. But over do it when he is good

I have a 3 year old and he has just hit the terrible 2's late, what a joy! he has started hitting himself on his legs in frustration when he doesnt get his own way. I just walk away from him, dont look at him, dont talk to him, when he has calmed down i talk to him about what happened and encourage him to explain how he felt. Sometimes if its really bad and he hasnt zoned out i put his arms down by his side and we have some deep breaths together which seems to difuse the situation more quickly but sometimes its hard catching them before the point of no return.
i think the best thing to do is not give him sympathy, no reinforced attention. Another thing i have noticed is if he does actually hurt himself he is soon to stop, then its a matter of "now that was a bit silly, lets get on with the day etc".
It must be very frustrating for little ones not being able to understand how to communicate there feelings properly, i think thats where the tantrums start and the hurting follows on from there if your giving him attention for doing it.
If he does properly hurt himself with scratching etc i wouldnt even mention it if i were you, just clean him up if he needs it and move on.
It is hard and no doubt you feel like pulling your hair out sometimes and no one like to see there child in pain caused by anyone but hang in there, stick to your guns, be consistant and he will learn thats not the way to get what you want :o) Good luck xxx

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I dont think its a matter of making yourself happy, yeah if your on your own you have no choice but think about the reason you love people, friends family and lovers, because they make you feel happy.

My perfect partner would be someone that makes me happy, i think you give as good as you get and i am a giving person, i really enjoy looking after someone so it would make me happy to have someone look after me just as much.

Communication is a BIG one. whats the point in being with someone you cant talk too or dont want to talk too? or who cant tell you how they feel?

Also, my slightly shallow side, has to be gorgeous to me. if there is no spark then there is no fire, no fire no passion and i would hate to spend time with someone i dont want to ravish every night.

Thanks mom, seen alot of your posts on here! your angel photo is fabulous by the way! Really inspiring x

Thanks guys, that worked better than i expected! x

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