I can relate to your beginning comment. I haven't had many people close to me die, but my mother has. And when it happens, she is on the phone with friends saying "everything happens for a reason" or "it was his/her time to go, it can't be helped."

When I hear this, part of me thinks "it's not fair of you to impose that kind of hope on someone." Another part of me understands that these people might need to hear that, as a coping mechanism of sorts, whether they themselves believe it or not.

I'm sure it's possible that even I would want to hear this if I was stricken with that level of grief. Then again, it might just make me angry.

As for my own experiences, one of my close friend's little brother committed suicide during hurricane Ike. He came over the very next morning and I was able to comfort him (as much as you can comfort someone going through that, at least) without even thinking such things my mother does, let alone saying them.

Sorry the post is long, I was trying to find a parallel to your original post.

Death is that much scarier when you DON'T believe in heaven, I think.
The unknown usually is.

The new Rise Against album: Endgame

and the new Sum41 album: Screaming Bloody Murder

Sucker Punch -good old zack snyder wins my heart once again, very awesome

Faster -meh

Adjustment Bureau -also meh

Limitless -was amazing!! stop reading and go see!

9/10

I like your beginning message!