In Speech class we were taught, "You can not not communicate." It means that you do communicate. You have the oral speaking and you have the body language speaking. When the two are in harmony you don't send mixed signals. For instance, when you are given the cold shoulder body language but they tell you that they love you that is unharmonious. When the mind and the body are in sync you can give and receive clear transmission of your message. But you have to look for the same in them with who you are communicating with. Does their body language sync with their oral speaking? Speech class is all about communication.


That is exactly what is happening, but it changes for short periods of time. Whenever we separate, she makes an effort to get me back and tells me how much she loves me, but once I'm back things go back to the way they were after a few days. As far as the drama and games, I don't enjoy it at all, I just love her too much to let go, but I want to know how she really feels.

Goofball73, that is my problem. I want things to work so badly because I love her with all my heart. That is why I keep stickin around. We have been through so much together, but I just don't know if I can take it anymore. I don't really want to go into our past because it would take a day or more to cover everything, but let's just say it has definitely been love/hate.

I moved out but it wasn't my idea. She seems to go back and forth on whether she wants me around or not. As a far as her trust issues, I have shown her for the last 3 yrs. that I don't want anyone else and I love her very much. All I do is go to work and come home. Her attitude and demeanor towards me seems to switch from loving and affectionate to emotionless from one week to the next. I have always told her how much she means to me and that I want to spend the rest of my life with her and she will tell me the same thing but her actions don't show it. That is what confuses me.

Alright, so I'm married but our relationship seems to be love/hate. When its good its great, but when its bad it leaves me confused as hell. Recently, I moved out and we don't really see each other much. Everytime I tell her that we should end this, she tells me that she loves me and she will work on her trust issues. She is goin to school so that is her excuse for not having time for me right now and I understand that, but lately she doesn't seem to want to spend time with me even when she doesn't have school. She seems content to just talk to me on the phone and if that's the case, then I think that we should just end this and just be friends. Let me know what you think. Thanks.