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Welcome, from Oregon :-)

mindblowing poem.......

What makes me contact someone? Attracts me, It's really what she conveys in the profile. A pretty picture will not make me write a woman. It takes more than that. It's how you come across in your writing that gets my attention. Your attitude, How well you write about yourself. Can you make me see what you are trying to convey in my minds eye? Can you "pique" my imagination?

Hum, What do I look for? I've never been one to make a big deal over pictures. It's not the do all,say all of a persons profile. But at the same time when I look at a picture I want to see "you". Not you with your friends. I don't want to have to try to figure out which person goes with the profile. I don't like pictures that are to good. I would rather see you the way you look everyday. Not just on occasion. A lot of people like putting up "glamor" shot pictures or studio pictures. I want to see pictures of you in everyday life. Turn off if you don't.

When I move to your profile, You don't have to tell me your whole life story. You don't have to tell me all your likes and dislikes. Just an over view will do. But even an over view needs some meat in it. So, Don't talk to much. But at the same time give me enough to go on. Something to make conversation with. And please, One thing that stops me dead in my tracks and causes me great confusion, Never,ever say, "Whatever you want to know,Just ask" That stops me dead in my tracks. Turn off. Me personally, I don't want to have to ask 10 thousand questions. I don't like having to pull everything out of a lady. To me, You have to be forth coming with info about yourself. At least a little at the time. I don't mind asking some questions. I just don't want to constantly do it. Give me a little and I will ask a little and I will tell a little about myself as we go. That way I feel you are as interested in me as I am you. Give and take.

I read a lot of profiles. If the first or almost the first thing out of your mouth is your kids and family come first, NEXT PROFILE. I see that a lot. Most men who have already had kids and raised them, Do not want to be # two to yours. They don't expect to be above your kids. Just equal. So leave out the kids thing till he has more time to get to know you. If you come out with it right at the start, It makes it sound like you will put your kids ahead of him. Not equal. That's the kiss of dating death for women.

One last thing, Don't show me to much. Make me imagine what you look like besides your face. I can tell without asking if you have big boobs or not. I don't need a over head shot so I can see down your blouse. Make me wonder. I mean, So many now leave nothing to the imagination anymore. It's a big turn off to me. Make me dream about you. Make me wonder.

You know I think that is what is most important is to be happy. Life is too short not to be.

its hard to find because when you 'look' for it you must be pre defining it

true love develops over time, with shared experiences, goals, dreams,,etc,,,

exactly - most people want to put old relationship drama behind them - not dredge it up to be aired .... at least that is MY take

you would be surprised tho - sometimes men are much bigger drama queens

Sweet lady, I take forever to break up with people too.

Later, I always regret not doing it sooner. Why do we do the things we do?