I just read this and had to say that is too funny!! Some of them I think
could scar a man for life!@!@

You know I get really tired of guys that send messages that start out
with YOUR HOT! Then they immediatly jump into questions about sex! Wake
up guys this is not a turn on and it is not impressive. If you are in
these types of sites to meet people to potentially have a relationship
with there is nothing that will make a girl (at least this girl) run in
the opposite direction and hit you with a block. Come on guys try using
the head that is on your shoulders and think for a second! You may be
proud of your member or your stamina but that is definatly not the first
think a girl wants to know about. I don't see why it is so hard for alot
of guys on these sites to start out by trying to get to know someone
before the conversation jumps into sex.

I don't have a bike but I did ride to sturgis with a friend of mine on
his bike and it was alot of fun!

I would be leary of someone who is willing to jump into a relationship
after the first date. To be on the safe side I would just ask him out
right. When in doubt ask don't assume things. If you have questions and
you don't ask them it will automatically create tention in your
relationship no matter what the level is. Then when you get an answer be
honest about how you feel. Don't put on airs that you are ready for
something more if your not because that is not fair to the other persons
feelings.

Ok ladies I hate to sound like the bitch but comeon really. You can't
say that looks doesn't matter at all. Really it does I know I can't be
intimate with someone I am not physically attracted to I have tried it
it doesn't work. There has to be some physical attraction atleast. I
have recently been in that situation and let me tell you he was so nice
and kind to me and I thought ok this guy wont hurt me so I am sure that
I can grow to be attracted to him but it didn't work. I am not saying
that looks are everything and there are many things about a person that
can be attractive without being supermodel material but all in all there
has to be something there to start out with and to be honest there is a
lot to be said about someone who puts time and thought into how they
look. If you care enough about yourself to maintain yourself in a clean
and respectable manner than you have more of a capability to love
another. Oh and by the way I am not ugly and would actually consider
myself one of the beautiful people so to speak not supermodel standards
but I know that I look good and there is nothing wrong with that I take
pride in myself. That doesn't mean I automatically can have any guy I
want and besides when you look good it is usually the assholes that hit
on you cause the nice guys are too intimidated to try.

I have to say that my daughter doesn't always choose the best ways to
make herself heard and can be a handfull but I think if you are going to
take the time to get to know someone well enough to get to know their
kids then there needs to be some effort made on both sides. Teens are
not always and in many cases hardly ever socially acceptable to adult
terms but that is where we come in and have to teach them what is
acceptable and what the concequences are to unacceptable behavior. If
the mom is not willing to guide and discipline the child then the
problem is not with the child it is with the mother. If the mother is
doing these things then the man needs to be patient and supportive and
even jump in and help if the relationship has gone to that level.

I deal with this alot with my daughter. I can't even begin to tell you
how many guys have turned and ran in the opposite direction because I
have a teenager. They can be self centered and selfish but weren't we
all at that age? It comes with the territory and I am frankly sick of
guys that just tuck tail and run. They can't handle it so they take off.
I have a 8 year old that people just love cause she is so sweet.
Sometimes I can't help but wonder if it is because she hasn't developed
a mind of her own yet to where she has formed opinions and thoughts of
her own about subjects that might raise some issues or flare tempers
yet. My teenager is a great kid but she does speak her mind and I think
that is what alot of guys run from. She is not an obidient robot that
does everything she is told but she is a young woman coming into her own
ideas on life, love and happiness and she should be validated for her
thoughts and feelings and shown how to work with them and use them
productively. Men that can't see that don't deserve the women raising
these socially independant teens.

I am kind of in the same boat but I think that once you have seperated
and you know there is no chance of reconciliation then it shouldn't be a
problem. Ultimatly it boils down to this: If it feels wrong to you then
maybe it is wrong for you. What is right for someone else may not be
whats best for you so I would go with what your heart tells you is
right.