Jtip is right. I suspect you have already made your decision, but I wanna offer food for thought for future dilemmas when it involves females. I have noticed something very sweet about many women which may ultimately be a comfort to you. Even when things don’t go our way , many of us are deeply touched when our guy is showing STRONG evidence of considering our feelings in their decision making process… and also showing great forethought in compensatory action when they are unable to come through for us.

A great place to start in situations like this is to announce to both parties that you love them both and that both events are too important for you to miss , but always be mindful that Jenny’s birthday or any other event that arises, is SELDOM ever likely to define the tone of your relationship with a mate or your future together. Your words and action PRIOR to this event and even more so AFTER the event actually matters way more than a dinner decision or the event in question. Let that always be your guiding principle in tough decisions like these.

It is harder for you to compensate to your mom for your absence at this RARE family reunion than it is to compensate to Jenny for her birthday. With that in mind, it might be helpful to give Jenny the option of celebrating her birthday prior to your family dinner, ALONG with the sincere rain cheque of a more elaborate celebration in the soonest time possible. I trust you to invest a lot of fore thought , creativity and effort into making her birthday celebration prior to the family dinner as memorable as possible with flowers, wine , a nice present etc which would console any gal I think. If she is not happy about the option of celebrating prior to the family event because it is too rushed, then enthusiastically market the compensation plan to her and send as many loving messages or at least one call to her during your family celebration as you can manage without neglecting your family’s company. Most of us women will take comfort in any gestures from our guy that communicate that we are being thought of every step of the way, especially in their absence. And then after all that… there’s that AMAZING compensation plan that our guy can creatively contrive to seal the deal.

But my point is that most women are more concerned with a thought process and actions reflecting strong consideration of them HABITUALLY, rather than any event in isolation. Good luck to you my friend!

Im gay , i love my God but i dont like to suppress or pretend to be a man.i want to be happy being gay. And i am looking for that special someone. If i found a bf and we make love you know etc. do you think we will go to hell or is there a thing like hell and heaven?