God Bless you!

True..... If men simply look at the appearance of a woman & disregard the heart, then there attraction to that female is as strong as two negatively or positively charged magnets... Hence, nothing is actually strong at all.

We all initially meet eye to eye.... Not heart to heart. I think many get it confused. Eve was made from the Essence of Adam. She was made literally from Adams DNA. The perfect helper & companion for Adam. Her heart was made for Adam before her body. What Adam saw first was her body & then her heart. I am sure when Adam awoke that he was extremely surprised & was probably feeling a bit lopsided in the rib cage area. Nevertheless, I am sure that Eve was pleasing to Adams eye. Good made her that way for Adam to be yearning for her for the rest of his days. It was very good.

Now, what we have today in men's hearts is a misunderstanding of what love is. The world does not portray love whatsoever, yet everyone wants it. When I look upon a woman, I look into her spirit & soul. Through the way she carries herself & through her eyes.... The windows that shall tell me who she is. My initial attraction to her is nothing but what my heart was created to be attracted to. My heart without perversion or uncleanliness will see clearly at a woman instead of seeing her with the clouded vision of mankind.

Now, when she speaks.... That will be another sign into her spirit & soul. The eyes, the tongue, & the body language. That is what seals the deal as far as if I'm interested. However, you cannot take away the "love at first sight" paradigm. God gave us eyes for various reasons and one of the biggest reasons is to simply survive & find the things in life in which will glorify Him.

Based on our environment growing up and the women in a man's life whether it be his mother, sister, girlfriend, friends of female origin, and just any female he is subjected to in some way.... He will start picking out things about them that his heart likes & that his heart doesn't like. I believe females do the same... Because why wouldn't they form their own opinions based on why they are inside. Problem is with each scenario is that we grow up in broken environments and out views & perceptions become tainted and skewed.

Now, I, at a very young age in kindergarten even, found a girl to be attractive. I had a puppy dog crush on her. I don't know why... I just did. I noticed her face first & it did intrigue me I believe. Then after some time who she was intrigued me more. That simple pure vision is normal. What isn't normal is the SEEKING of attraction. Meaning, I'm discounting everyone out unless they have certain attributes. Granted, we are attracted to certain things in life.... Some like gold & jewelry is pleasing to their eye.... Some like the clouds & the sky.... Some never look up to see it's beauty or care to.... Some are only attracted to tall men with cowboy boots... Whatever... To each their own.

The basic thing that everyone should be striving to do is to first... Understand their own heart the best of their ability. Secondly, follow it. Thirdly, find it in another. Only then will you find your soulmate. Your rib from a males perspective.... Your heart (DNA) from a females perspective.

We are all in this together regardless if we know it or not. I appreciate the discussion here. I've thought about this for quite sometime. I'm attracted to certain eyes.... I guess because that's what I look at on a woman the most in my life. Then comes the face... Then body. We all look each other over & that's not the issue. The issue is when that's all we do & all we look for. Not caring about another's heart... Just wanting them. It's what has us in this mess.

The way I see bodily & spiritual attraction for myself is an exact copy of who I am. After all, I'm looking for my soulmate. I suggest we all look for copies of ourselves for that is what God have us to work with in this life. We are blessed in that way from Him. He takes all the guess with out of finding the right person.... So long as you know yourself & who He is in you.

For Adam & Eve we perfect for one another. He found himself in her & she found herself in him. It's all I'm searching for. I have faith it exists & that God will someday show me the way.... His way not mine. It exists for us all. Just as He loves us all.... He wouldn't create is to not share that love with another add He shares it with us. We do that in friendships & we do that in our daily lives. & that's us glorifying God when we share His love that He gives to us. The love of Jesus Christ is what I want to give to my soulmate. A love that is beyond anything else. For there is no greater love. That kind of love & that kind of passion is something I only have the capacity to give to one person & the children we may have. Unconditional love. I try to share with everyone, but they do not accept it most times. I know that my soulmate will accept that deep of love as well as our children.

True love does exist, but only in those who truly understand what the Lord Jesus Christ, my only hero & person I've ever looked up to, has done for us. He is love personified. May the Holy Spirit be with you & show you His love. Albeit, sadly... True love is so very scarce. The only selfish thing we all should be engaged in for this life is to find Christ in ourselves.... It's the only way to exhibit His Love, but we have to surrender everything. Everything.

I don't expect to meet anyone on these dating sites, but I figure, just as you all did, to try it out. Problem is that most people consider 30-45... Even an hour.... too far of a drive to give someone a chance? Are we trying to find love with that much laziness? It'll never happen. I'm so grateful that the Lord has not even a zillionth of laziness for His love that He gracefully gives us all. We don't have enough Christians looking at the right things in life let alone the ones who are completely lost & have no clue what is going on.

Thanks for reading my sorrowful rant. Good luck finding true love.... The kind God intended us to have with Him.... & actually finding someone else who understands it. I feel like Troy sometimes in the beginning of that movie where he slays Bolagrious..... Is there no one else? IS THERE NO ONE ELSE?!