Like someone else in the thread posted, with internet dating, I believe in love at first sight. Call me crazy, but I was talking to someone for 3 or 4 weeks before meeting, and in that time of talking every day for hours at a time (one call was 5 or 6 hours), and then meeting her in person, man it just took the life right out of me when I first saw her walking my way. Not only was that my best first date, but my best date ever. I didn't think I could connect with someone on that level with just meeting them in person for the first time.....

As a guy here is my opinion. If your trying to loose weight, it tells me your uncomfortable with your body. Personally that's a turnoff to me. Some guys will like the fact that your trying to loose weight, but if someone doesn't accept you for who you are, what happens if you can't loose more weight? Or worse yet, if you gain it back! If someone can't accept you for who you are now, can they truely care about you?

-Todd

BabyDoll1:

The last person I went out with, I wasted my time for about 4 or 5 weeks. Went out 3 times, and when it came time to meet my kids, she canceled at the last minute, all of a sudden she wasn't ready for it. 2 days later I get the "it's not you it's me" and "i'm just not ready for a relationship with anyone right now" (so what are you doing on a dating website!) speech. Less than a week later, she's got a boyfriend she's madly in love with, and he's practically living with her. Everyone will make excuses unless they actually care about your feelings. I was just as blind as you were..... I feel your pain there!

-Todd

Oh yeah, forgot to mention. For me it says alot about trust by pulling your profile. It sends the message that your not interested in meeting other people. Even if your not exclusive, but you want to go on more dates to see how things go (which is my case), then can you really give it your all, if your still thinking about someone else? Again, these are just my views, feel free to bash them all you want lol

feelingroovy:

Well, I haven't told her yet.... well, I emailed it to her lol, I just pulled them, but she's at work. It's all about how you feel, if you really want to be exclusive then you should pull your profile. I mean how hard is it really to just go and re-create it if it doesn't work out. The big question is, does HE feel it's exclusive. You could either flat out ask him how he feels about being exclusive, or, do what I did, mention you pulled your profile and see what he says. I mean if he's got 1/2 a brain, he'll pick up the hint, and if not, then you may have to be more direct.

Some might say a few dates isn't enough to know, but I generally don't meet someone until I've talked to them for 2 weeks or so, and another 2 weeks or so of phone calls. If you think about it, 4 weeks of talking daily, if you haven't figured out if your interested in them in that time, you have more problems than wether or not a relationship is serious..... Just my opinion though.....

As a guy, I recently started seeing someone, and we've talked on the phone extensively, and talk every night on the phone, instant messenger or both. We've gone on one date (met last saturday!) and it was great. We've already planned our 2nd and 3rd dates, and I brought up the subject merely by saying how I'm pulling my profiles off the few sites I was on.

On another note, for a guy's perspective, maybe you should have that serious talk. If your checking to see if his profile is up, and it is, either he's so interested in you that he forgot it was there (easy to do if nobody is messaging you), or maybe he doesn't think it's as serious as you do. I learned the hard way recently with someone else I went out with. After 3 dates in 2 weeks, she wasn't looking for anything but someone to go out with. So just a few thoughts, from a guy's perspective.