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To love or to be loved
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No offense but to me "giving" without any expectations at all and being content with your own love thing doesnt sound sincere at all. Not the first time I hear it, and from what I've seen so far this "noble" feeling got to come to an end sooner or later. Why? Because that "unconditional" love, in my opinion, is synonym for maternal/paternal love, or the love people feel for their parents. Anything other than this, especially a romantic love cannot be that unselfish. As it has been emphasized several times in this post, for a continous, happy, healthy (or whatever you want to call it) relationship, a shared/mutual love is an essential part. If the situation you're in isn't likely to turn into a relationship but will go on as you "giving" and your special guy "receiving & letting you pamper him" then I believe you will end up getting sick & tired of not being shown any of the affection you offer him, no matter how strongly you believe in your self-giving love. How long would you put up with it if he's in love or falls for someone after a while? Do you think is there any way you two can start a relationship someday? If so, maybe it's hope that makes you believe your love is completely unconditional. And what exactly do you mean when you say he "lets" you love him? Who the hell is anybody to tell you what you can feel for them? I'm not a smartass & prefer to keep to myself for the most part but couldn't help writing this when I read your last post. It seems like a new trend that people should condemn themselves to unhappiness in the name of love & it's friggin annoying to witness this. Anyway,best of luck! I'm not offended. We all have right for our own opinion and this is yours. I agree, shared and mutual love is the best option for both parts, especially if they are intended to get involved. Loving somebody doesn't mean that I'm ready to give up of my own life, putting myself into someone else's service, giving up of my own hopes and dreams. Love is just how I feel about somebody. Of course, if it isn't mutual, then there's no point to start relationship. We both can move on, but that doesn't mean, that I should change my feelings about him. People often condemn themselves to unhappiness with too high standards, looking for perfection in partner, having high expectations to relationship and end up with disappointment over and over again. And as they were unhappy in relationship, they are unhappy as a single too. I'm far from being unselfish, but I won't make anybody else responsible for my own happinness. I am happy, believe or not. |
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Topic:
guys vs girls - part 190
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I will. 
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Topic:
guys vs girls - part 190
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573
I need to reply to Rosie in her thread about manly men. How to do it gently?
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Topic:
guys vs girls - part 190
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Hello! 
Yes Pisces, they all say that... 
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SipSik
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Sat 04/22/17 01:16 PM
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Did you know that tall men and women with big boobs have something in common? I just read an article saying that women are instinctively attracted to tall men, just like men are instinctively attracted to women with big boobs. However.... It seems that being tall may get the woman's attention but if he is unable to attract her in the more important ways such as confidence, charisma, charm, ability to make her laugh, etc, she will not be interested in him for long. Same with men being attracted to women with big boobs. If the woman isn't attractive in more important ways such as having a brain or having the ability to fake orgasm (jk lol), most men are going to lose interest in her. (Yeah, right!) ********* Wasn't that interesting? Now my question is.... For MEN: If you see an attractive woman with big boobs, what is the first thing you notice about her? For WOMEN: If you see a tall attractive man, what is the first thing you notice about him? What I notice about them? Man should look manly. And the eyes, always the eyes. I prefer men a bit taller than me, just as much that I can wear high heels. Really don't want to walk around with sky-scraper. |
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Her big boobs... goes without saying... We always check out the boobs, regardless of the size. There are different " styles " of boobs.. we like to figure out which the gal has ;) That's why I never put full size pic of myself to my profile... they tend to lose ability to look at my face. |
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Topic:
guys vs girls - part 190
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567
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Topic:
guys vs girls - part 190
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567
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Topic:
To love or to be loved
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Thank you for all for honest answers!
Now I will explain why I came up with this thread. Hopefully I won't offend anybody's feelings now. This is just my point of view and probably won't coincide with the views of others. I looked how thread after thread people said they are looking for love, for friendship. Saying what their future partner should be or not should be. Counting traits and flaws. Making full lists of expectations. Does it really works this way? Should I be compatible with someone's list to get through to the next round? No, this is not for me. I have to admit, I have been on both sides in my life and neither of them made me happy. Being loved by a man I didn't love and hadn't any feelings towards him is very complicated and knowing that you hurt him with inability to respond to his feelings just caused guilt and despise against myself. Being in love to someone and expecting to receive at least some feelings for return made me unhappy also. After being a single for a while, dealing with myself and my own issues I realized I don't need a partner for completing myself or making me happy. So I stopped looking for it, looking for someone who should make me happy. Who does that? Who puts such a burden to shoulders of someone you love?... expectation that the one should make you happy? So, after letting that all go, I realized, love is only about giving, not receiving, not expecting to get anything to return. This is constant state of mind, and it is unconditional. Doesn't mean if it's your child or friend or family member or partner. Somehow we are capable to forgive mistakes and flaws of our children and still love them the same way. But we are not capable to do it with our partners. Why? Because of expectations, because we make our partners responsible for our love and happiness. And when they do mistakes, don't act up to our expetations, we are hurt, disappointed and unhappy. But is this a real love then? Now I have became a giver. I love and I'm extremely happy about it. Yes, he is very special, he blows my mind. And he has made the biggest gift to me he could ever do, he lets me love him. And that's all I need to be happy in my life. |
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Topic:
guys vs girls - part 190
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573
Aww, thanks guys! 
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Topic:
guys vs girls - part 190
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574
And I'm alone again. 
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Topic:
guys vs girls - part 190
Edited by
SipSik
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Sat 04/22/17 08:53 AM
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And I thought, why the heck he thinks he is Polish.
See you Pisces! Have a good work-day!
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Topic:
guys vs girls - part 190
Edited by
SipSik
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Sat 04/22/17 08:51 AM
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571
You asked in Russian "Does Polish dance?"
No, I can't. |
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Topic:
guys vs girls - part 190
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Mikey, who is Polish? |
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Topic:
guys vs girls - part 190
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Translation, I will go to dance tonight, hot latin dances. Salsa, bachata, kizomba. Love it. |
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Topic:
guys vs girls - part 190
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572
Я буду танцевать сегодня вечером, горячие латинские танцы. 
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Topic:
guys vs girls - part 190
Edited by
SipSik
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Sat 04/22/17 08:37 AM
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570
Hi Pisces!
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Topic:
guys vs girls - part 190
Edited by
SipSik
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Sat 04/22/17 08:30 AM
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 Forgot my number...
569 And now put it wrong. How can you still be single???
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Topic:
guys vs girls - part 190
Edited by
SipSik
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Sat 04/22/17 08:19 AM
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572 my hairs all messed up and I can't seem to get it right. That's why   
570 Relax, at least you have them short. You can only imagine, how mine can look in the morning when messed up. And I have quite long hair by now. I need a rake to get them right.
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Topic:
guys vs girls - part 190
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574
Integ, what's wrong with you today?
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