I'm laughing so hard I almost got caught at work!

That's one of the best I've heard!

BUSTED!!!

Be afraid! Be very afraid!

That's cute! I love HP!

Cute!

I've heard this one before, but

I would rather my friend knew the truth right away instead of her finding out later that I knew all along and didn't tell her. She would have a right to know being my best friend.

However, I have an aunt and uncle and my uncle has many "friends" on the side of my aunt. I haven't told her, but I've wanted to many times. I don't think it's my place when it's extended family I rarely talk to. My uncle will get caught eventually and he knows it, too.

You should NEVER hide the fact that you have kids. If they're interested in you, they will find out eventually anyway and finding out later will just make it harder on everyone involved- including the children. If he doesn't like it from the beginning, then he's not the one for you!

I once dated a guy with a son. I never got to see the kid, but I was still ok with the fact that he was divorced and he loved his son. He even wanted me to be the stepmom, but we didn't get too far in our relationship. I think children are a blessing- even if they're not yours.

My thoughts on the original topic is that I find it healthy to talk about past relationships with the one you pursue a relationship with. The way I see it, it's our roadblocks and hardships that make us who we are today and it's important for our S.O. to understand what we've gone through to understand who WE are. However, I do know that I am guilty of talking about my ex's too much and I've hurt people's feelings in the past by doing it. But I've learned my lesson that there is such a thing as going too far when discussing the past. I don't think you shouldn't give him a chance just because he's not over her 100%, but just to give him some time and help him discover that you can give him better than he had before. For instance, I know that my boyfriend had walked in on his now ex-girlfriend in his own apartment, in his own room, in his own bed... cheating on him with another guy. He just told them that he was going for a walk and when he came back, her stuff had better be gone. He knows that I would never do anything like that to him because of my similar experiences, so it helps us build that bond of loyalty and honesty. Just my opinion.

Cute!

OH MY GOD!!!!!!!! That's HORRIBLE!!!

Actually, Misty, we have been discussing this exact issue. I was worried at first, too, if he might just be trying to get citizenship by marrying me, but that's not the case. He's trying to get his citizenship legally like his parents did BEFORE we reach that point. He doesn't want to use someone like that. This isn't the first time I've fallen in love with someone before meeting them face to face or even talking to them on the phone. The guy that I ended up my first night with was someone I had met online, as a matter of fact. My ex-fiance' was someone I met online, but I didn't have a connection like this. I think I was mostly scared of being alone then. Now I'm not scared of being alone or anything. Like I said, I was just looking for new friends in the Seattle area so I know some people before I move there and this just happened. We started talking and we've been at it for a while now. This weekend was our first time on the phone only because I work so much and go to school and there's a 7-hour time difference in Spain where he is now for the conference. When he's done in Spain, he's coming here and staying with my friend and I for a while.

I view love probably differently than all of you guys do and that may be why there's a bit of a misunderstanding. One thing I've learned from my relationships is that love you have for someone else isn't that different than love you will have for a best friend. It's when you can picture yourself with them and can't wait to be near them that the platonic love turns into romantic love. Who is your lover/boyfriend/wife but your best friend? I love everybody equal whether they are male or female, BUT it's when I find that person I want to pursue a relationship with and say "yeah... THIS is it. This is what I've been looking for." When you know, you know. I don't see myself as having just one soul mate, but there's one person I want to spend THIS life with. But that's also where personal views and religious issues kick in that I won't touch here.

Thanks for the comment, Misty! That was my belly dance costume, but I haven't even gotten any time to practice yet...