I'm new just as new as a brand new penny Advice: You've posted two pictures in your profile and in both you're looking down. Try replacing them with you smiling and looking into the camera's lens. Good luck! |
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Topic:
What are you Committed To ?
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Learning "Here Comes The Sun" with a strange thing to me called a capo.
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Truelove
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It's hiding under the sofa. must be under your sofa.. All I found under mine was a pen I lost last night Some popcorn under my sofa's cushions...as a result of watching movies sitting on it. |
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Truelove
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I think I tossed mine in the trash a few years back Tossed a true love or the sofa? |
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Topic:
Rate Your Sexual Ability
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But it's not nice for us to lie (if we do here)...
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Topic:
early morning entanglements
Edited by
Mike6615
on
Thu 07/30/20 09:33 PM
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How can they resist a blank space, what's the game?? I think the OP means he likes game shows and would like to intelligently discuss the most popular ones with females here. |
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Edited by
Mike6615
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Sat 07/25/20 03:30 PM
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11 Types of Men Drawn to Internet Dating
Some men use the Internet to find relationships. Others use it to run from them. By Suzanne Lachman, Psychology Today, 12-10-13 For this article, I used experiences that women shared me about online dating to describe 11 types of heterosexual men who are drawn to internet dating. I realize, as do you, that there are infinite varieties of men who engage in online dating for infinite reasons. Many more could be included on this list, and some men may fit into many categories. Still, in the world of online dating, some types seem more prevalent than others. Here are 11 categories of men you might encounter when dating online: 1. Just Looking He fantasizes about a beautiful love life or sex life but has too much anxiety to actually let any potential connection leave his protective computer screen. He’s just not ready to involve himself in real-time dating with people he may connect with online. There are many reasons why this happens, but at the core, he is not ready or able to begin a substantive relationship, regardless of what his profile says. Rather, he moves from one online connection to the next, or back and forth between many, and he barely, if ever, leaves the house. Internet dating enables him not to engage in a meaningful way. When he needs connection or the fantasy of a relationship, he can effectively “order out” for a date. By avoiding actual human contact he isn’t forced to push his boundaries or risk challenging the perfection of his fantasy woman with the experience of a real-life woman. For many reasons, it is difficult for him to make room for something real. 2. Wide-Eyed but Distractable This primarily 20 to mid 30's guy is excited about the possibility of expanding his horizons and meeting new people. He is bold, tolerant, open, and ready to explore what online dating has to offer. Because Internet dating has been a part of his generational experience, he is more comfortable with it as a normal mode of communication and meeting people, and is generally more open to the process and experience. Therefore, when he connects and makes plans online, he likely follows through, sometimes sooner, sometimes later. Either way, unlike the first type listed, he has probably had more positive than negative dating experiences overall, so he may be open right away or over time to a committed, authentic relationship. However, given his age and other potential factors such as how easily distracted he is, once he discovers just how many choices he has online, he may become less interested in committing and more interested in continuing to look around. Nonetheless, if you’re looking for a fun couple of months, look no further. And it's possible it could expand even further. 3. The Experimenters He believes that older women “know what they want.” He is typically 20 to mid '30s and he wants older women often because he believes that they have much to teach him sexually, and this prospect excites him. He realizes that the easiest way to access older women is online. He is typically at the age of sexual discovery and imagines that older women are not only more experienced and enticing, but more available as well. This can be a difficult and provocative situation for all parties involved, so proceed with caution. Most assumptions about how you and he will conduct your relationship are not as straightforward and as they may initially seem. 4. Trying to Get Over The Ex He is looking to avoid being alone after a heart-wrenching breakup. Sometimes he will admit to the women he finds online that he is using Internet dating as a diversion, and sometimes he won’t. However, with patience and fortitude, there may be the possibility that a substantive relationship can develop. After all, he has experienced love before, which is why he’s so heartbroken now, and why you encountered him online. However, it is equally possible for him to remain non-committal when he is still hung up on someone else, so proceed with caution. Either way, these scenarios may take a long time to play out. 5. Already Taken He wants to know what else is out there, but won’t necessarily act on it. Or maybe he will. Either way, he is not planning to leave his current relationship, but feels like he is missing out on something. Or perhaps something pivotal is missing in his relationship, and he wants to be reminded or reassured there is life beyond his current confines. Regardless, this is not a man who can offer a serious, consistent relationship. Internet dating is an outlet for him and he is not planning to leave his partner anytime soon, if ever. 6. Lost in Fantasy How many profiles do you see that list things like amazing communication, amazing sex, must be in perfect shape as relationship must-haves? And how many of these criteria do you think are the direct result of the relationship he just came from? More than finding a partner who will meet all of his hopes and dreams he wants everything he has longed for but couldn’t have in previous relationships. (This category may also include the desire to act out sexual fantasies and fetishes that couldn’t previously be realized). Interestingly, fantasy can be so powerful for him that when reality fails to compete, he finds ways to fade away. However, it may be possible for him to shift from fantasy to reality now or over time as he realizes he has to make some concessions if he wants to have a real partner. 7. Lies About Age He is typically older, in his 50s, 60s, or even 70s, and is set on meeting and dating women significantly younger than he is, so he shaves years off his life in his profile, even in his "current" pictures. He may be very well meaning and truly believe that once he meets these young women they will be so drawn to him that the deception won’t matter, and the age difference will be rendered irrelevant. However, starting a relationship with a lie—now matter how “harmless” it may seem to him—takes away from the woman’s ability to use her own discretion and decision-making power and therefore erodes trust. When she inevitably finds out, she typically finds the age difference and the lie far more jarring than he had anticipated. The longer he continues the lie, the worse the discovery is. Relationships that start by duping a partner don't end well. 8. Sooo Busy This is the former Ivy League rower, now a neurosurgeon who has chosen the Internet to meet women who are likely on their own tight timelines. He expects to meet other busy people and have a romance that is incredibly hot and connected... for the 30 minutes every week that work for him. While he may be quite enticing because of how active and on top of his career he is, he has difficulty converting online dating into a substantive experience. Often, his routines are crucial to him so he may fight with himself to make room in his life for a partner. If his tight schedule fits your own timeline or you’re okay squeezing the relationship into small chunks, that’s great (and it does have the possibility to evolve). But be aware of how often he uses being too busy to avoid real-world connections, because it can be easy to get caught up and strung along in this situation. For many of these men, work, routines or even children may offset any sense of urgency or commitment to engage in the messy process of real-life dating. 9. Finally Successful With the Girls Earlier in life, he may have been intimidated by girls, but he has always been smart and ambitious. Despite his interest in girls when he was younger, it rarely if ever worked out. Sure enough, later in life, his ambition came to fruition—he became successful and got used to getting what he wants. He is typically in his late 30s through early 50s and may be divorced or single. Either way, he has come to realize that—to his surprise—he can now have most women he sets his sites on, and he hasn’t gotten over his good luck. Now he feels like a kid in a candy store. This may be the man that, just as online communication begins, asks if you’re naked. Since he is used to getting things done quickly and directly in his professional life, and getting the girl now comes much more easily to him, he may not understand why he should have to jump through the hoops of flirtation courtship, and romance to achieve what he might view as a mutually agreed upon situation. Make sure that to the best of your ability, you know what you want moving forward, as he may not be ready to commit any time soon, if ever. 10. Predators He dislikes women and looks for opportunities to shame or control them, typically as a response to painful previous experiences in his own life, or because his wiring is totally awry. Beware: He is not easily detectable at times. He is not in control of himself and therefore looks to control others through any method he can. If you come across him, don't engage. 11. Authentic Loving Partner He is looking for his partner in love and in life. Maybe sincerity comes with a little baggage, but so what? He is realistic in his expectations and is serious about being in a relationship. He is genuine and is not typically sidetracked by the number of choices available to him, once he has found you. The question now is: Are you ready? Before starting a relationship with him, consider your own motivations for online dating. It can be a frustrating, even painful process to encounter many of these types of online daters. But keep in mind these men may have become jaded and wary too, due to their own challenging online dating experiences. It’s much easier to be flaky and noncommittal online—for both you and for your dates—and that is in part why these categories exist in the first place. Without an in-person connection, the person on the other screen doesn’t seem “real” and that can enable both men and women to use online dating to gratify their own needs without regard for the person they have attracted. However, despite these categories and the challenges of online dating, if you continue to act with authentic reciprocity, it’s likely that you’ll find the same in return. |
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Topic:
Hey I came 👋
Edited by
Mike6615
on
Thu 07/23/20 06:17 PM
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How you doing You've gone through med school and you can't spell "assistant" in your profile correctly? And just what is an "assistant doctor"? |
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I'm totally depressed
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can anyone give your valuable time? How do you know our time is valuable? It might be worthless. |
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Topic:
Satisfaction
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Expectations must certainly be different in India.
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Topic:
need a second wife
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What did you do with your first wife? I think he separated her Hopefully not into small pieces. |
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I've been collecting dryer fluff for years. One day I hope to make a sweater. Spray glue may help in this project. |
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Edited by
Mike6615
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Thu 07/02/20 07:51 AM
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Maybe he means he finally got proof she'd been cheating at cards and board games all along...not nice.
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Domination..
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I don’t view domination as weak vs. strong, more about control. Giving up complete control is not an easy thing to do, so even weak vs. strong, I would not consider it a weak quality. Yes I sort of agree, my friend seemed very strong when he went into that room. But to see him now, tea cup rattling in his hand, I'm not so sure he was ready for whatever happened.. Is this a quote from a book or perhaps a movie? |
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Topic:
Mike
Edited by
Mike6615
on
Tue 06/30/20 07:23 PM
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Just got out of a toxic relation ship,with a alcoholic nurse. Of course that's only one side's opinion. Would like to hear her side. |
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Edited by
Mike6615
on
Tue 06/30/20 02:51 PM
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hahaha I am NEVER jumping out of a plane (though my Mother did, in her 80's. We assume she or the instructor had a chute! But a comedian once said they couldn't justify the idea of "jumping out of a perfectly good airplane". |
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Topic:
Living with an ex
Edited by
Mike6615
on
Fri 06/26/20 07:12 PM
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I remember two people that divorced said they'd continue to live together because of "the great sex". So any mutually satisfying arrangement's possible.
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Topic:
My first 1000
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I'm fast approaching my first thousand likes . It could be today or tomorrow as the number sometimes falls as well. 🤣 What, you don't have a J.D. Power rating? |
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Topic:
New here
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fed up with men looking for woman Okay, you've made a statement. What's your next step? |
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hmmm...the topic seems to assume there is really a difference...that somehow, that one night stand is free lunch...(ok everybody repeat after me: there is no free lunch!)...there are many ways to pay...did you pay for that lobster dinner or for those concert tickets?...kaching! I can't eat shellfish and most concerts (including the Stones here) have been cancelled. What a revoltin' development! |
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