I think this all boils down to the basic need of women to have their emotional needs met.

You say he has "always" been this way and yet you still married him. Did you expect to "change" him?

You admit he is a good provider. Try to focus on the positives about him. Afterall, you picked him.

Why is it OK for her to sleep with the woman and not with the man? Both are considered cheating.

How would your current man answer your question?

It may not be what was said, but rather what was NOT said. When she said "no, we are friends", in her mind she could be saying "no, we are friends but I would like it to be more". I doubt she would finish the sentence outloud to a complete stranger.

What do you have to lose? Try starting a friendship. You should find out pretty quickly what her true feelings are. Don't let your fear of being "rebound dude" get in the way of a potential great relationship.

I think I missed something...

Holy Crap!
It is an OSHA requirement that any employee routinely exposed to formaldehyde (or formalin) be monitored on a regular basis.

Are you ever asked to wear a test badge?

What kind of work do you do?

I assume you are saying it changed in a bad way.

I would hope my relationship would change in a good way; our love would grow deeper with each passing day. (I think that is the way it is supposed to be)

These conversations are extremely difficult to have so are very often avoided. I would rather get a text than nothing at all.

You guys must be related to my sister! When I am at her house she follows behind me and cleans the ashtray after each cigarette!

I smoke outside but have an ashtray that gets emptied when the mood strikes me or there is no more room to snub the butt.

I'm lived in Kentucky for most of 26 years before moving to Tulsa almost 10 years ago (Witness Protection Program).

We train people how to treat us. By taking her back you are telling her that it is OK to treat you in that manner. What motivation will she have to treat you differently?

Happy Birthday! In my mind we are the same age!!

If he truly does not want children than he will take steps to prevent it. He is responsible for his own paternity.

As a mother I would be very concerned if my daughter were to become SO involved SO quickly.

I agree with "Respect"!

Scientists have studied gossip, they've come up with some pretty interesting theories and conclusions. Some researchers believe that gossip started as a way for early humans to learn about their neighbors and determine who they could trust, making it a necessary tool for survival. Robin Dunbar, author of "Grooming, Gossip and the Evolution of Language," theorizes that gossip works in human societies the same way grooming does in primate societies, but more efficiently. Dunbar goes so far as to theorize that language evolved so that people could gossip and more effectively establish and defend social groups.

Dunbar's idea might sound a little far-fetched, but researchers report that gossip has a lot in common with grooming, besides the stereotype of women gossiping in a beauty parlor:

Gossiping is enjoyable. Many people gossip just for fun or to blow off steam.
When you gossip with someone, you and the person you're talking to are displaying reciprocal trust. The people you chose to gossip with are people you trust not to use the information that you're sharing against you.
Gossip encourages social bonding. The people you gossip with become part of a group -- everyone else is outside of your group.

I don't know who these girls are that don't freak if they find out their man had sex with someone else but that's just crazy.

I agree. I have had it and it was very good.

I love (almost) everything about Oklahoma. I'm not from Oklahoma but I got here as quick as I could!

I've never had a ticket!