The bulk of emails I get are scammers and it really pisses me off because of the wasted time. Here is how I set it up if it is of help to you. I say to the person that because of my problem with scammers I'm fine with emailing here a little but will want to TALK to them in person. Don't get sucked into being a texting pen pal with someone because they are probably not real. I get the man's number and set a time and when I call, I do *67 which blocks my number. If they are real, I give my contact information. If not, I block them on this site. If anybody wants you to do KIK, that's another texting scam site so don't do that. I have actually met two very nice men here so be persistent but be careful too. Good luck with your search!