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Hi lady's, my name is Valintin, im a good,carrying,respectful and family oriented guy.Im looking for regular girl with a good soul that gonna respect and love me for who i am,looks are not important to me, the important thing is how you gonna act.If you gonna act right with me, then i will always stand by your side and care about you and love you with all my heart.I will tell you more when we gonna meet each other.
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You probable see old couples together sitting in a park.What you think what holds them together? I think about that all the time. The conclusion I come to is that their relationship started in a simple era -- in a time when instant gratification wasn’t common and hard work trumped everything. In modern day there is no commitment, loyalty or integrity among most people. Parenting changed a long time ago. Most parents wanted to be 'friends' with their kids which caused a decay in values and obligations. Discipline is still unheard of in some families.  The outcome of this pathology is we now have adults who were the product of the aforementioned parenting.
When a major city uses a slogan like, "What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas", then we are all in trouble! 
But if you come to them and ask the question " What still hold you together ? " they probably answer that we still love each other and cherish each other since they start dating where there wore young couple,or they just my say that they are to old to date another people and they just stick together. |
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We do. Whatever your perceptions are, I am telling you they are wrong. i know , like i said i been nice to then and treat then like a queen,show them how much i love them and want to be with them,but it seems like they dont care about my fellings to them,all they care is money that i gave to please them.When i ran out of money they start to breaking out with me like i dont interested to them anymore. welcome to the real world buddy!!! 
you think that is right to do that.You probable see old couples together sitting in a park.What you think what holds them together? |
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Why don't you ladies just chill, and why do you have to attack every guy that states they are nice, there seems to be a lot of man haters on the forums lately, really are your live so screwed up that you have to come on here and just attack guys randomly can we please stop with all these personal attacks against guys you don't even know. im sorry but here in this topic nobody attacks no one,we just talking about woman that want to be with guy just for money. |
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Ok. Since in your original post in this thread you stated that you are from Belarus I have to ask this question. In Belarus, is what you do with women ( the buying stuff, treating them " like a queen " etc ) considered the normal thing?? What you may be running into is just a difference in culture between there and here. Most women, and any woman worth being with, is going to be looking for someone who treats them with respect rather than someone who tries to buy them with gifts. Of course, take them out on dates, treat them well, all that good stuff. But unless it's her birthday or another " gift giving " holiday, keep the times you buy stuff for her spread out. Don't do it all the time. It won't take you long to figure out whether she's in it for the " stuff " or in it for YOU. If it consider my country where im from, most men treat woman nice, buy gifts, and flowers to show how important the woman is in his life.but the rest is just need a house wife and thats about it.My point is that it dosnt matter where you from ,if you love that person and that person love you,they should respect each other and treat each other how they think its right,not to play games . I totally agree. However. Being here, as opposed to there, you are dealing with a slightly ( putting it mildly ) different culture. Many, many people here are strictly materialistic. Men and women both. It's difficult to find someone who will truly appreciate you for being who you are and not for what you can give them. Just a thought here....perhaps when you meet someone that you really like....hold off on the gift giving thing for a little while. It'll be easier for you to find someone who wants to be with you for who you are. You know, maybe you right about that. |
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Edited by
valik86
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Mon 09/14/09 02:34 PM
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Ok. Since in your original post in this thread you stated that you are from Belarus I have to ask this question. In Belarus, is what you do with women ( the buying stuff, treating them " like a queen " etc ) considered the normal thing?? What you may be running into is just a difference in culture between there and here. Most women, and any woman worth being with, is going to be looking for someone who treats them with respect rather than someone who tries to buy them with gifts. Of course, take them out on dates, treat them well, all that good stuff. But unless it's her birthday or another " gift giving " holiday, keep the times you buy stuff for her spread out. Don't do it all the time. It won't take you long to figure out whether she's in it for the " stuff " or in it for YOU. If it consider my country where im from, most men treat woman nice, buy gifts, and flowers to show how important the woman is in his life.but the rest is just need a house wife and thats about it.My point is that it dosnt matter where you from ,if you love that person and that person love you,they should respect each other and treat each other how they think its right,not to play games.I say in my topic that woman i had been date use me like im some kind of sponsor ,not appreciate me.I never say to them like "baby if you need money,just take how much you want" no im not like that.I just wanna know , is there somewhere ladys that dont want all that fancy stuff just for be with the person that they gonna fell appreciated and loved and happy.Happynes,appreciation and love not in money but in the person who will adore you,appreciate you and love you.Or maybe im wrong about that. |
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Im not saying that all woman like that,i talk about woman that i have been meet.And about treating like a queen im saying that i like to adore them and respect them as she is my lady,i not trying to show them that im rich or something,no im not like that.I just wanna treat her right and respect her as a woman.
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We do. Whatever your perceptions are, I am telling you they are wrong. i know , like i said i been nice to then and treat then like a queen,show them how much i love them and want to be with them,but it seems like they dont care about my fellings to them,all they care is money that i gave to please them.When i ran out of money they start to breaking out with me like i dont interested to them anymore. Um, women do not want to be treated like queens, or princesses, or any other fairy tale. We want to be respected and adored but on an equal level. You generalize too much. I notice all your writing lumps ALL women into the same categories. Why don't you stop giving money and give yourself? If you don't have anything to offer BUT money then maybe you should develop your personality first before dating. I recommend staying in college so you can educate yourself but you are young, and most of your learning will come from life as you grow up. You have very immature ideas about women. Did you have male role models that taught you these falsehoods? They did not help you. 
I wish you well. thanks for advice. |
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Edited by
valik86
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Mon 09/14/09 11:03 AM
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Then you do not have friends in successful relationships. that why i try to look for advice in here. |
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No, I mean friends in successful relationships you can talk to and learn from. yea,but from then i can learn not much,they have more trouble to find a right girl,they do same mistakes again and again.All they say that its life and,they all players,they play with girl and live,just like in the movies.I think is wrong to do that. |
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Do you have friends in relationships? you meant girls? |
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You do seem naive. How long have you lived in the US? 7 years,but still dont speak english well |
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thanks ladys for your advices,maybe im just young and stupid guy who need to learn more about wemen.
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Sorry Valik! Just meant I'm 50 -but just not in your neck of the woods! 
oh,ok |
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Edited by
valik86
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Mon 09/14/09 09:45 AM
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Hmmm. Not a quick study, are you? im just saying that i need to look for woman like you,i meant with the attitude like you. But you asked that question of Holly4459, not of me. i asked her is she interested in me, i dont understend why she put this quote : I'm 50- but don't live in Florida |
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Hmmm. Not a quick study, are you? im just saying that i need to look for woman like you,i meant with the attitude like you. |
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 I'm 50- but don't live in Florida...
ok, you interested in me? |
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You need to stop that. She can buy things for herself. If it is her birthday or whatever.... then buy it when she is not there and wrap it up for a surprise. But if you did to me what you just described, I would not let you buy it. I would be offended. See thats what i need the girl like you,thats dont care about the money,you just need love and appreciation from the guy. |
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Personally, I do not at all expect a man to buy me anything. I do not expect gifts, flowers, or anything. Now, I do not mean that if a guy sends me flowers I get upset, but it's hardly an expectation. And certainly not a regular event. It should be spontaneous and infrequent, so as to keep it special when you do it. Grand gestures, when made regularly, stop seeiming so grand as you get used to them. What I expect is time, consideration, and respect. Some of the best times you can spend with a person involve no money whatsoever. Maybe you are buying them too much? What are you buying them things? The things i buy her is when we go shopping together she say that i like to have that,if this is not expensive i buy this.Im not a money spender or a sponsor for her,i not buying them flowers and gifts every day, i buy only on acassion. |
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Um, of course. They want to do it again later. Try dating a better caliber of person. Keep in mind the common denominator is you, you are selecting these people, you are buying them things. People can't be bought, not those with character. Thanks for advice.But i dont undestend why they doing this for money? My understending is if the girl looking for a boyfriend she already knows that he gonna please her with gifts,flowers,he showing you that he love you and wanna be with you.But girls is wanna just play a game with them.Well my point is why they just stick with a person who they think she love him, not to drain the guy out of money ad move on to a next guy.Or just if she see that she didnt like him just say to a guy that " sorry,you not my type of guy" and look for a guy that she thinks that hes the one. That way nobody get hurt,financially and emotionaly.Or im wrong about that |
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