I have raised my kids to know what respect means from a very young age. I have never spanked my kids and rarely even raise my voice. It is punishment enough to all of them to know their actions have disappointed me. My three are very close in age but have NEVER had an issue with serious misbehavior. they all know they are loved very much that i will disapprove of their actions but it will never change my love! They can be kids and experience lifes ups and downs and know they will always have a safe place to fall!