First of all, as I told someone else a few days ago, when you make a post on a public forum and then ask for opinions or advice, you are putting yourself out there and allowing yourself to be insulted, ridiculed, judged, looked down upon and more. If you don't want people to give their honest opinions, you shouldn't ask for them. I am not being mean, I am being honest. I don't ask people on here for their opinions about anything I do or plan to do, and if they give them and I don't want them, I deal with that appropriately.

I never, ever ask for opinions about subjects that are personal to me, because I'm pretty sure I won't like the answer. Some people believe in abortion, some people believe in adoption, some people believe it's best to keep their child, no matter the situation and do the best they can to raise it. Those are personal choices, and only the person who is in that situation knows what is best for them. I have no idea what you are going through; I have never been pregnant, and I never plan to become pregnant, so I'd never say "oh you should do this because-" or "you're wrong to feel this way because-" I think people who do that are full of crap. Until something like this happens to you, you don't get it. So I won't pretend that I do.

Secondly, the unborn child's father is a jerk, pure and simple. You didn't get yourself pregnant on your own, so yeah, it's his fault too. I'd be on the phone to the proper authorities about child support and anything else you might need as soon as possible if I were you. I get so sick of men sitting around whining about not wanting to pay child support and how "she" ruined his life. That's crap, too. I tell them if they don't want a kid, use protection or get a freaking vasectomy- yeah, I'm sure it "lessens the feeling" but so does an unwanted, unplanned pregnancy, and most of the time, if you force a father to be around a child he never wanted, the child ends up being abused.

Thirdly, take it from someone who does know this- do not drink around men. Never! You lose your inhibitions and you do things you probably wouldn't do sober. It is a bad bad bad idea. If you have to drink something around a guy, have a soda, have some juice, but do not drink alcohol.

Fourthly, do what you think YOU can live with, this is your life; it's not about what we think, your parents think, the child's father thinks, it's about you. It sounds like you have decided that giving the child up for adoption will be the best thing for you, it, and your other child. That is up to you. Only you know what's best. I commend you on making your own decision. It shows character.

Lastly, don't let other people make you feel bad about what you've done; learn from your mistakes and victories and move on. Be a good mother to your current child and your future children if you plan to have any.

Good luck.

First off I want to commend you for having this baby in a world where many in your position are pressured to abort, not realizing the trauma that it can bring later (as I've seen in my mother). You are doing the right thing, and years from now regardless of what happens to this baby, you can always take solace in the fact you gave it a chance to live.

Second, so as to not be put into this position again in your future, you may want to consider abstaining from sex until at the least you are sure you will be able to care for another child. As you know it only takes one time, one failed birth control method for you to become pregnant. As an addition to that you would also be wise to keep yourself out of situations and places where you feel you may be compromised in this area.

Good luck to you, and as I said before you are doing the right thing. Take care of yourself, if you ever need someone to talk to about this, feel free to send a message.

BIRTH CONTROL. !!!

ESP if your single!!!

Jmo


a little to late for birth control dont you think

im not judging you in any way, would you keep the baby if you were in a relationship?

I wish you the best with your difficult decision. I raised my child by myself. When they get older, it does get easier.

And one more thing...life gets better as you get older so be patient...we ALL learn from our mistakes. And YES we all make mistakes. My best to you...if you ever need to talk just email me...I will listen.

do what you think is best for you and the baby. its easy for everyone else to say do this or do that.

I know your young and I think its great...you could have opted for an abortion but you chose to give your child life.

Jessica, just so you know...I was adopted as a baby myself. I love the parents who adopted me and have no bad feelings for the woman who gave me up. My life has been just fine...the normal ups and downs but all in all just fine!

I was not trying to be mean.. I have raised 3 boys by myself, and it is difficult. You said in your post that you got really drunk and that is how it happened... I only suggested to not drink if that is what happens...
If I would have known I would be alone raising mine I may have given them up, was not my situation. It is a very unselfish act to give a baby to someone. Sorry if I hurt your feelings.

Maybe it's time to stop drinking.....
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if that was your respones why you even write... because really i dont care what you think it not like you aint messed up in your life

If you know that's what you want to do then by all means. I just don't want you to regret anything which is why i said decide carefully