The more stipulations you put on what you are/ what you are not looking for makes it that much more difficult to ever be happy with something else. It amazes me when someone has this huge list of criteria that someone must fall into before you will even chat with them let alone date them! When I see this type of thing I often ask "and what are you offering?".

Example of this, your profile states you have an "average" build and are 5'6".

Then we get to your photo. You are not exactly attractive. Now, being the superficial person I am, why would I even give you the time of day if you have nothing to offer, even in appearance, and you are on the short side for a man?

It doesn't not matter that you could have a great personality, a fantastic lover, etc..if no one can get past the description to even know the rest. So the level of your shallowness is actually a detriment to you ever finding a suitable mate.

Ah, then we get to your forum posts. They are one sided, you are closed minded to any new input, and you are condescending.

So, I have to ask myself, "What the hell is this person thinking?" You should just take whomever would be willing to chat with you and marry that person immediately because, in reality, that is the best you will ever get.

Most of the gals that have this happen to them immediately cancel the date. You are the second one I have known that actually stayed and had dinner. Must have been awkward

No, not at all. In fact he said that he thinks he looks exactly like his picture and that is he close enough to 6'. LOL I was amazed even more so when he pretty much acted like this was really not a big deal. I told him that I would not have even recognized him, and he acted surprised by this. One word comes to mind: playa

Okay, I have done it. Let me explain.
I have been chatting back and forth with someone on another site. He had a picture posted, rather attractive, medium build, 6'. We were having great chatting sessions and after about 1 month or so, I decide to give him my phone number to call me. Prior to this, he had given me his number asking me to call, but I was not comfortable yet.

So, we chat on the phone for about another month. He had been asking all along for a date, dinner or lunch. I'm not there yet, so I tell him this. He is okay with it. Time passes when I finally say, yes I will meet for lunch. Well, today was that day.

I agreed to meet him at a nice lunch place. He said he would meet me outside. Okay, so I am not far from this place, so I walk over. I see a man standing outside the restaurant. As I am approaching, still at a distance, I am thinking, "Please, that cannot be him". Then I notice that a couple of women are walking by and he is checking out their behinds. When I get closer he recognizes me and smiles, my thought is "this can't be".
He is not 6 feet, he is at most 5'7", he is also bald, with a mustache and a huge gut. He looked nothing at all like his picture. In fact, if he were inside the restaurant waiting, I would have walked right past him not knowing it was him and thought I was stood up!

Needless to say, when I left and he leaned in to kiss me, I turned and walked away.

I would like to know this; What makes a person be so incredibly non-accurate about what they look like, and think that a person wouldn't notice the difference??? What makes someone do this? Don't they know that once you meet them you will know that they lied about themselves and there would be no chance at all of ever getting a 2nd date?

I have decided this is my first and last date with someone online. I am much more comfortable meeting someone in the Home Depot, the super market, or just about anywhere else. Much less chance of meeting a fraud.