My account is male lookin for female and it should b female looking for male!

If you settle: you're lying to the other person, plain & simple. They are not what you want, what makes your heart race & keeps your mind on them throughout the day until you see them again.

Of course if you tell them the truth: "oh you're a great man/woman, but you don't have _____ & that is what I really want in a partner", then 2 things could happen:

1. They change to accommodate your desires & then slowly begin to resent you for not accepting them as they were which eventually leads to breaking up.

2. They don't change & realize that you don't want them "as is" which eventually leads to breaking up.

Doesn't matter if the change was to their benefit (job/health/looks etc.), no one ever wants to know that they are classified as an "at least" as in "at least he/she's ____". That sentence/thought automatically implies that the qualities they already have STILL don't make up for whatever it is they are missing that their partner REALLY wants. Doesn't matter what a person's self esteem is like, when it comes to relationships, we are all looking to impress our partner with something, & knowing they "settled" for us means that we didn't AND the relationship will always be at risk of losing our partner to the person that does have the quality they are looking for.

The flip side to all this is when BOTH parties know they are settling in one of those "this is as good as I can get" situations. But it must be mutual to work out.

edited for the "your/you're" thing...got to spellcheck better.

I have settled before. I won't do that again. I don't want to be with someone who just feels "comfortable" with me.

SEX on a first date:

= SLUT WITH A DISEASE, HOPE THERE WAS PROTECTION
= DESPERATE WOMAN WITH NO VALUES, TOO BAD SHE DOESN'T UNDERSTAND
= DUMB WOMAN, WILLING TO DO ANYTHING FOR LOVE
= COUGAR, AND WAY TO MANY OF THEM OUT THERE
= COLLEGE WOMAN WITH NO VALUES, NASTY AND TOO MANY OF THESE TOO

OH and lets not forget this one:

= LONELY, HE WONT BE CALLING YOU BACK (SEE ALL FIVE ABOVE)

OR

You made a mistake, don't make the same mistake twice!!!

Hahahaha oh really

Pull her hair??? LOL!!

Omg...I've been having a Racoon problem...As if...that's not enough,I
went out on the porch to have my last ciggy and a opossum was out there

: Feeling good for searching some one suitable

I learned a new word