Looking is not cheating......when I am with a guy in a relationship and I see a good looking girl I will point it out to him. I think you have to have trust and then there should be no worry of cheating in the first place.

Looking is not cheating. Cheating is sharing your intimate thoughts, actions with someone else besides your partner. I was in a very abusive relationship for 14 yrs, aeven thouh givin the chance several times, I never cheated on him. That is not who I am. Cheating is wrong JMO

My second ex was unfaithful and it ended our marriage of 7 years.

Through pre-divorce marriage counseling, two things surfaced explaining her unfaithfulness.

She is a control type woman. Both female and male control freaks are similar in that they project their own lack of self-esteem onto their partner. You've heard of how controllers often belittle their mates, calling them incompetent, inadequate or stupid. They themselves feel that way but don't see it in themselves. They "disown" those feelings and project them onto their mate. When a "controller" is unfaithful, they think; "I'll have an affair because he/she no doubt is having one."

The other reason for her unfaithfulness is that she is an extremely beautiful woman (a head turner everywhere we went) who felt she was losing her beauty to age. Affairs, to her, were also a way to prove to herself that "she still had it".

I'm sure that these reasons are not the only reasons a partner becomes unfaithful, but these were the two that surfaced in my case.

.....like I've said b4 on here about this.....a old friend of mine said in reference to a conversation about my last big break-up 5 yrs ago...."cheating starts the 1st time they lean in close to share a laugh"......or a smile that they know is more than friendliness.....lookin is a whole new subject/Question......lookin is just the tool we use to define what appeals or doesnt appeal to us.....



~wicked~

Cheaters have no morals. They dont cheat because of things not right at home.......they cheat because they want to and no person will ever change that fact.

I agree...cheating is a deal breaker for me

Lookig is not cheating

I appreciate the hell out of a good looking man, does that make me a cheater, no. I want him to notice a good looking women and that doesn't make him a cheater.

You can always look at the menu, just doesn't mean you can try. And in most cases if they are satisfied at home they won't stray

your only cheating if you get caught.

Why would you? What would drive you to seperate from you mate and decide on another? Can't ask a question you wouldn't answer yourself.

If your with someone and truly care about that person you hould always hav the guts to tell that person so things can be tried to work out. Then if thoings can't be then move. And if your with someone and you your doing something that u think your significant other would approve of ..u may want to talk to them about it. Communication, loyalty and honesty ive always believed to be three essential compoents to a heathly relationship.