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I know I personally have little or nothing to gain by lying to anyone about anything. Omission does not count as a lie in my opinion unless that omission causes the same effect a lie would have. good answer :D |
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Too much truth? No such thing. That is like assigning a label on it - this is a "good" truth, while that over there is a "bad" truth. Truth is just factual information.
Now..what you *do* with it..perhaps another matter. You can certainly use your 'truth-powers' for good or evil. A person relating that they don't have any sort of spark or feeling, and they would not like to continue dating - truly sucks, but probably a good thing. Dr. walking in, saying "You are terminal, you have about 2 weeks, sucks to be you" may in fact be perfectly accurate - but not a great way to put things. (Thinking of any number of "House" episodes.) |
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had a long talk with a new friend last night, now the question i have after this chat.... Is there such a thing as TOO MUCH truth? Is total truth sometimes a bad thing. discuss please At times there is...i was having a disscusion with a girl, the other day cuz we both have feelings for the same guy and there was alot of drama leading up to our talk.. But i held back on alot of things cuz i knew the truth of what i had to say would start a fight. and i didnt want to do that. i'm not saying i lied. but i just didnt say everything... somethings are better left unsaid. |
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wolf - explain what exactly you are asking for in truths ok this one is simple... when asked a question about yourself, is it better to tell the whole ugly truth, to tell the truth but leave out the ugly parts, or to arrange facts to show youself in a better light? TELL the bloody truth. I think that "certain" people will have an understanding toward you (if they are interested in you, have known you for a period of time or simply wish to see what you've done and/or gone through in life). Either people can handle the truth, deal with it and/or accept.. or they don't & wish not too. Then we move on and continue life as we always have. I'm more concerned about what I think of myself.. rather than the judgements others have of me (no matter what I've fessed up about) |
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If you are answering that question to paint yourself in a better light... I call that self-serving. However... I think there are three sides to every story. It just depends on how much you reveal and why, what the topic is and why... and how and why it is the other person's business.
For example, when I told my SO about my divorce I provided facts first and then other information later. weeks and months later... Such as, he filed for divorce, he had a baby with the other woman while we were still legally married, etc. As we got to know each other better I included that I was not all that nice to him once I lost respect during the marriage, that I knew he was cheating, (and secretly happy)...that he other woman was my friend, etc. But that was not at all within all one conversation. If I had, that would be TMI and not too much truth. So now, you all get the TMI!! |
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had a long talk with a new friend last night, now the question i have after this chat.... Is there such a thing as TOO MUCH truth? Is total truth sometimes a bad thing. discuss please Its ALWAYS the BEST thing to have in knowing ANYBODY. Because W/O it,,,WHATS THE POINT???? And to much truth is like to much love,,,,CAN YOU HAVE THAT?? Many "THINK" they are telling their truth,,,but its THEIR inner EGO of a wish THEY WERE,,,,THAT WAY!!lol And THAT is sad....and in the end,,,VERY HURTFUL to the OTHER!! |
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there is truth and then there is finding out when they had their last bowel movement.....
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Yes! I'm not saying a person should lie. But the last thing I want to hear about on a first date or conversation is every little detail about how crappy a guys life has been....this pretty much tells me it's still crappy...or he still isn't over something or someone. All important facts will come out in time. Hey...most yummy, delicious mushrooms grow in a pile of crap....but that isn't want you want to think about when you are eating it on your pizza.
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there is truth and then there is finding out when they had their last bowel movement..... |
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Yes! I'm not saying a person should lie. But the last thing I want to hear about on a first date or conversation is every little detail about how crappy a guys life has been....this pretty much tells me it's still crappy...or he still isn't over something or someone. All important facts will come out in time. Hey...most yummy, delicious mushrooms grow in a pile of crap....but that isn't want you want to think about when you are eating it on your pizza. off topic//// this reminded me of a shirt i wore to school once that got me in alot of trouble it said "people must think i'm a mushroom cause the keep me in the dark and feed me bull****" i got a paddle for every letter in Bull****.... back when the coaches could do that |
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If we can get through all the ugly truths at the beginning then we are home free as long as mutual attraction and mutual respect, etc... are also there
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depends on the discussion you are referring to I believe in telling the truth always imo, it also depends on who you're talking to |
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I tell the truth all the time, sometimes it's not what people want to hear, but it's better than lying.... Cheers to that sir!!! |
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Truth is the best path. The only caveat to that is, you dont have to tell everything you know all at once. You can tell everything that is relevant at the time.
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I find truth and honesty works best for me. Hiding things usually has bad consequences.
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I dont mean to hide things. If asked then share, but with a new relationship you dont have to share every single detail. You work into things slowly.
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Total truth? Ever hear what a two year old can say that is true? truth depends upon your perception. What is true to one person can be totally unlike the truth to another. Think about all the eyewitness accounts to an occurence. Our individual perceptions define what is true to each of us. Also, The effect on others must temper what we define as truth. "Yes you look great, honey" "No, that dress does not make you look fat" Are these type statements "damnable" lies and to be avoided?
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