I have been wondering why I have been attracting mostly younger men. One thought did occur to me tonight. Maybe all the men my age are having their midlife crisis'and are dating the younger women that these younger men should be dating. Now these younger guys say they like the older women because there is less drama, the older women are more truthful (they said this not me)and they are just easier to get along with and don't play games. Again these are just some of the things they told me. Any opinions out there? Anyone else having the same challenge that I am having? Any guys out there willing to voice an opinion?

I myself have mostly dated younger men most of my life. I just seem to get along better with them. I find that the older men just seem to want to stay home and do nothing!
I know the younger guys that I have dated said they like older women because we know what we want and don't hesitate to tell them. Plus we don't play the foolish games that the younger women play. Some of the younger guys don't want children also, and I know that I am done having kids!
I think its great that older women feel comfortable dating the younger men now...look how it use to be, before it was only the older men that could date the younger women with out getting those funny little looks!!!

Hi. I'm a 52 year old in the central part of Southern Indiana. I live in Crothersville, right off I-65, about 45 miles North of Indianapolis.

You do have a point that the older guys don't want to run around and do things. I've been there and done that. I have a Monday through Friday job. I wake at 3:30, leave home and don't return till 6:30 every evening. I eat, read some Bible and am back abed by 8:30 or so. About the only time I have for dating and running around is Friday evening and Saturdays. (see my "visits" thread on Relationships). With gas prices right now, I'm not gonna run around much. This older guy is into saving money and paying bills, not running up credit card bills so if you want high times, a younger me'd be better.

I don't know about older/younger women. I know that the women I talk with on JSH don't seem to want to communicate very well. I need to exchange four or five e-mails a day with someone to explain myself and establish a relationship of trust and understanding and that's not happening. Most of the women I talk to here break off when I start discussing how I like to date: they visit my house & I visit theirs for short visits, etc, I"m talking an hour or two at a time till I figure what's going on and etc.

I'm not interested in sleeping around. I'm waiting for about the next eight years before I settle down due to some financial matters. I'm interested in a lady who knows the Lord and goes to a church with a quiet worship pattern (Christian Church), not loud, not pentacostal, etc. If you can discuss the Lord with me and communicate with me (or just communicate to start with), we can go from there.

At any rate, you asked for input and there you have it. You and the rest of the people on JSH sound nice. If you're interested or want any further info or assistance, please let me know. Thanks.

GS

Its simple old woman have less drama and are more truthful than younger woman...Hey?

well it depends on the individual. not all older men want to sit around on ther ass and watch tv. I have had reatationships with both older and younger women and some of the younger women are more stable than the older ones. Depends on the person. I dated a teacher 28 that had more sense than my ex-49 could ever had and new what she wanted in life. Some people just never mature. Nothing wrong with being a kid at heart which i am but i think being an adult can come at anytime in life. Older women can have as much drama as a younger women and then some and have alot more baggage. Not only that how about the older women just wanting to sit around and watch the world go by. Dont get me wrong, it is just an individual thing. Women are godesses and should be treated as such! They come in all shapes,sizes and attitudes! Hope to find one out here after moving from New England! Keep smiling ladies and I hope you find the right man for you regardless of Age!

I think the reasons they tell you they like older women is the reason I go for older men!

If you dated Freddy Mercury would that make you a Mercury cougar?

Maybe they are just attracted to older women? Or they have mommy issues? Or they are looking for a cougar. Who knows. Maybe you can get a good night out of it.

or maybe the younger guys like the cougars. it is the new fad now a days. there was an article on cougars in st. louis http://www.riverfronttimes.com/2008-07-16/news/coug-heaven/

it was a pretty good article

Didn't you mean Older women??? I hope you weren't talking old honey.

it is true there is alot less drama with older women. plus they are just plain sexier than the younger woman. the older women know what they are doing and how to do it right. they are also willing to try more things which is always a plus

I've been wondering the same thing - most of the messages I receive are from guys in their mid 20s. It's flattering, don't get me wrong, but it's also a bit disconcerting. I mean, it's hard to imagine that there would be enough in common to have something solid develop out of it. Not that I'm looking for anything serious at the moment, but I still wonder what the attraction is, lol.

Hi, I have been told the same thing from younger men. I also wonder what sort of things we could have in common? True, they may say they like older women for less drama and because we know what we want, but is it younger men? I prefer older men because I feel we would have more things in common and could build a solid relationship on that, be it just as friends or something more.

It might just be a mystery for now, lol, because it seems to be a growing trend. Not that I'm complaining over much - I don't judge someone on their age, or anything other than the person that they are - but it's still something I puzzle over. And it's good to know I'm not the only one!

I am not attracting anybody... and I don't know what's wrong!
I did not really know that the forums were an important part of all this though. So HI! to you all and best wishes!!

It does take time & a lot of patience, so don't get discouraged! I looked at your profile (sorry for the perv), and I do have a small suggestion - put a few more of your interests and likes out there. I know that starting a convo is tough, especially with a complete stranger online, so having a little bit of an idea on where to start can help break the ice :)

Also, don't hesitate to message or nudge someone you'd be interested in talking to. It goes against traditional mindset, but you might just start a convo with someone you'd really enjoy meeting!

Have a fantastic weekend

I believe they think older women are easy targets.
I have 20 - 25 year olds writing me all the time.
My son is 21!
You need a lot more than a hot, tight young body ( sorry I need a moment!) (OK) ahem to attract me :)