hi if anyone has any ideas that would be great, well i am married with
a4 year old child, amd me and my wife dont know what to do for fun
anymore with eachother so there has been a huge loss in the
relationship, i mean what can we do we dont share alot of interests
anymore and we are only 24 does anyone know how to put that spice back
in there instead of just living with eachother it is hurting our
relationship bad please help if u can. thanx

Find someone to take over for a nite or two and have a
"date" nite and re-kindle what you had before- please, don't let what
you once had be lost because you don't know "what" to do, you little
one will suffer and most of all your love will suffer, stay strong in
your committment and best wishes to you both, a happy, long, fulfilled
marriage is all we hope and dream of and yours is still young and full
of promise! Bless your little family !!

find a new hobby together. go camping without the kids. go to adult toy
stores together. sit on the porch with each other in the middle of the
night and stare at the stars. make love in the car. shower together.
leave eachother naughty voice mails, dont go to bed in junky sweats.
kiss on the mouth a lot. not just when leaving for work in the morning
and saying good night.
hope thats a little bit of a start.
ps i know where im coming from cus im in my midtwenties married with
toddlers.
:)

i thank you for the advice. but had another question what can i do if my
wife says she is not in love with me anymore i mean it is really hard to
have any intamacy she just doesnt want it i dont know what to do about
that part cause as hard as i try it hurts knowing that, that she only
cares about me

If she truly loved you before, she can love you again, alot factors in
after having a baby, alot of emotions and physical changes, be patient,
if the love was there before it is still there, is it wasn't, be there
for the child, stay together , emotionly, for the baby and be the best
you both can be for the child!

thank you i dont ever plan on giving up

I applaude you in that! You will be a good father to your child and a
good mate for your wife, you don't know the meaning of giving up , a
rare find in your age group, with the willingness of your wife, you both
will be a success in you marriage and the up-bringing of your child-a
note to you- my dad would not let my mom refer to us as "kids" he always
said that we were not " baby goats" -always thought that was a
reflection of the man that he is!

You and your wife could use some kind of councel, together. One thing,
both of you, need to know is ''feelings'' of love is just
THAT...FEELINGS...Feelings come and go and change, everyday, every
second. We cannot, always, depend upon our feelings when it comes to
love. Love is a choice we make....not just a ''feeling'' of desire and
need.

Hope you can stay together...you are, both, just beginning life!

I believe that true love is more than just feelings, sounds like she has
another one already picked out sorry dude but there are many rough days
ahead for you if you hang in there. My ex did the samething and now that
I truly gave up she has seen what she lost and wants it back but it's
too late too much has happened in the past 3 yrs and I am not about to
travel the same dead end road

Hummm best thing to do instead of talking to us it tall to her about
your feelings and concerns. People can't work out there problems if they
don't talk to each other about them and can feel like they can be honest
with each other of what is going on in there lives.

True Txs then get that babysitter!!!!!

Well get the babysitter first and put out the candles ya know the mood
thing bubble bath wine or what ever you favorite drink is little music
dance with her in the living room turn the lights down low if the love
was there at one time its still there you don't turn it off like a
light switch set the mood and let her know you still love her
get-r-done.

a big mistake men make is they stop treating their wives like
girlfriends. court her.

Yep well it goes both ways people tend to get in a routine in there ever
day lives and just expect ever thing to stay the same after a while
things get boring and they quit talking and listening to each other and
then it seems neitber know how to fix it and before you know it the
marraige falls apart compltely then they wonder why by the time they
realize how easy it would have been to fix it its too late.

u might do well by some third party counseling. just make sure u see
someone who specializes in marriages not just a pastor or something.