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Another posted topic has spurred something within me...
I wonder what overall value people have when considering the sexual aspect of a relationship. What all does this aspect contain, emotionally, energetically, spiritually, physically... What does it consist of for others? What makes it what it is? What does it mean, personally, ...for you? I think this could be quite an enlightening thing for two people who are beginning a relationship to share their feelings about... Oh, I am just carrying on conversation... I am happily taken, just to be upfront about that... 
Anywho... Whatchoo think? |
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 I'll put it this way; If I had a girlfriend,I would like to have sex with her occasionally. Its not everything to me but its important. Whats the point in having a committed relationship without sex ?
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Your breath within me gives life to
The feelings of that which deny Existance of absence without you Entwined into one you and I Looking within you I see me Our lips sharing this love's reply There's no other place that I'd rather be Than here in your arms on this night Our bodies have nothing between us Captured in this world of life Touching the soul with our fingers The sharing of what is inside Breathing your love there's no danger Tracing your face and its lines Smiling so deeply you are no stranger We've known each forever in time This is to my love, Artsy... but it displays what I mean with the OP... |
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In short, for me, it is a culmination of what the entire relationship consists of...
What two share... and how... A direct reflection of that which is... a loving and committed relationship...
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Well said. Quality over quantity any day. Too much emphasis put on just the sexual aspect of a relationship and NOT enough on everything else, in MHO, can damage any relationship. There should, I think, be a more even split. Everyday life does tend to invade, ya know. Trick is not to let it.
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Thank you BLAKJAQ...
It is nice to meet you... I have always had some amount of difficulty relating to some of my family and friends concerning this notion... It means so many different things to everyone... for their own reasons, which are all quite valid in their own right... To me, love is made throughout the two lives shared and merely displayed at the sexual encounter... But I AM an odd one... 
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I think sex and intimacy in general is a very important part of any relationship for me. I would want to express my feelings in a physical, emotional, and material ways. Sex is just a part of that~ but without sexual compatibility there would be no relationship.
I think that to be compatibile... comes in part about beliefs and attitudes about sex but also in the willingness and ability to "tune" in with your partner. |
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Edited by
creativesoul
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Sun 03/16/08 12:28 PM
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Hi lilith,
I first off would like to thank you for your thoughts here... Very good points, also... Secondly, I remember an exchange between us in religion concerning 'free will'... Know that I harbor absolutely no negativity towards you as a result of our disagreeing opinions on that matter...
Sexual compatibility is contingient upon many things I suppose... Do you think it is possible for all else to be 'right' but that aspect be not? That is a compelling idea for me to entertain... EDIT: Oh, yeah... and you said the ability... Absolutely agreed upon that... |
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Creative~ No. I think if you had true and open communication with your partner there would be good sex and intimacy. I just don't believe things could be all right in other areas and not in the sexual arena.
(by the way... of course I do not think your harbour ill will.. we are both opinionated people. And adults  )
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That we are...
I agree with your statement here... completely...
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That we are...
I agree with your statement here... completely...
Nothing surprising there. We would have to agree on something eventually!
I believe it is sort of like a 50/50 thing. Fifty percent are the skills the person already possesses. The other fifty is figuring out what I like.... and doing it. Each person can not be "played" the same way, but if you are "tone deaf" then it is over. And vice versa. |
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Skill sets, huh?
I have never really thought of it in that way... although it could be an issue, I suppose... comparitively speaking... There is definitely a huge difference between two who are in tune, and two who are not... This is usually clearly known within a short period of time after the sexual aspect of the relationship has begun... from my personal experience, at least... Although in a committed relationship this has never been an issue with me, there have been a few short term ones where things were not quite right, in terms of the completeness of the exchange, ya know what I mean? Emotionally void. Not what I find to be of value in that aspect. It seems that once I knew better, I sought better... emotionally speaking, of course... |
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Words spoken between Souls,,, Yet not at all,,, A Spiritual connection, so Physical your Emotions run bursting with Energy that deepens your Friendship,, deepens the Love,, Deepens the act of making Love,I can not really explain the connection I and John have I can say we walk, talk, breath and are as one in life,,,
Its the quality of time we spend together day in and day out building our bridge,, Forward in life,, A journey we take together Be it Spiritual or Physical,, I believe its all wrapped up in one that makes us who we are,, we are one in each other,, and within this Bond we have grown deeper in Love,, Deeper in spirit,, Deeper in Life,,, Sheshhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh I am rambling,,, Sorry (((creative))) I cant seem to really express what or How I feel,, It just is |
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Edited by
creativesoul
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Sun 03/16/08 05:12 PM
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LAMom...
Beautiful words... heartfelt emotion... Wonderful... Simply...
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Your breath within me gives life to The feelings of that which deny Existance of absence without you Entwined into one you and I Looking within you I see me Our lips sharing this love's reply There's no other place that I'd rather be Than here in your arms on this night Our bodies have nothing between us Captured in this world of life Touching the soul with our fingers The sharing of what is inside Breathing your love there's no danger Tracing your face and its lines Smiling so deeply you are no stranger We've known each forever in time This is to my love, Artsy... but it displays what I mean with the OP... Creativesoul ... how you do take my breath away ...  
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Beautifully expressed as always (((Mom)))
(((((Michael))))) I like the nature of the topic. It isn't about 'how important is sex to you' ... it is 'what does it mean to you' 'what elements are important' .... it is a much deeper exploration. When there is a connecting of the minds, of the hearts and of the bodies then the art of making love is elevated to the sacred ... and it has nothing to do with technique and hitting the right notes ... ...it has everything to do with flow ... with allowing ... with presence ... with surrender ... It is a true melding where the line between where you end and the other begins is blurred... It is one of very few ways while encapsulated in these human bodies that we can feel at One with everything. ...pretty foreign notions perhaps in this MTV world we live in that trivializes sexuality... I am reminded of the 10 and 12 year old girls caught giving blowjobs in school bathrooms ... how do they find the sacred when all they see is the cheap? It makes me sad ... Great topic!
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sex isnt everything in a relationship but i feel its a big part of it in some ways. its a way to express your love, emotions, feelings, even trust. being able to be uninhibited with your partner and please them both mentally and physically while love making is important. being able to share your deepest desires.
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