Hey everyone,
I'm putting this in the religous chat because i think that is where it belongs. But really all it is a personal reflection of the things that have been weighing on my heart. Probably just some rambling to some, but maybe somewhere, somebody out there might be able to relate. Lately my life has been going in a downward spin. My one and only true friend in my life, my wife. Is leaving me, she cheated on me with at least one, most likely two different guys. I moved my sister and her boyfriend in with me for some company and it has helped but i still feel really lonely, i miss my wife. I thought that if we ever did get divorced it would be civil. I was completly wrong. I keep getting served with papers for this or that it's ridicoulous. But i maintain a perception to those around me that i'm strong through these times when i really just want her home and to hang on to her. But i know this isn't going to happen and i don't beleive that is truly what i want. I really don't know what i want. I still care for her...but i wish i didn't. My emotions go from sad, to lonely, to happy, to angry, back to sad, then back to happy. But lately the only real comfort i have found has been reading my bible. Sometimes it makes sense sometimes not but it helps. After reading it a few times however i realize that no matter what my situation may be someone has been through worse...our lord and saviour...He knows my heart and He knows what is best for me at this point in my life. There is a possibility because of this divorce and finances i may end up losing my clearance and being processed out of the navy. But i've finally realized that no matter what happens...even if i get kicked out of the navy, have to live in what some would consider poverty...and lose my wife on top of everything that it will happen for a reason. What can man do to me? can he take my soul? to answer this....no he can't...man cannot do anything to me that really matters...i'm not going to die i have a family that loves me and will take care of me...i'm not going to have to live without a roof over my head...i have friends that can provide that...So i guess what i am saying is that i thank God that he is watching out for me...and that i trust Him and His judgement in my life right now. No matter what he decides...though i may not agree...i know there is a perfect reason that will eventually be revealed to me. I truly do beleive everything happens for a reason...so i'm not going to be down about it anymore...Dear Jesus I turn my life over to you completly. Show me what you want, and give me the courage to follow it...and the wisdom to understand it.

Keep your faith. I know it may be hard but do your best to move on with your life. Try not to let your feelings for her drag you down. Take things slowly, one day at a time, ask for and follow Gods guidance and all will eventually be ok. Best wishes.

sweetie i am so sorry to hear about what's been happening... i am sure that you will come out of this situation so very much stronger than when you entered it

I will pray the lord watch over you and ease your pain.

You can be nice only up to a certain point.
Protect your rights and keep records.
Things will work out for you. Hang tough.

thank you everyone,

((((Kitten))))

Isaac,
to the last, it is first. Amen to that.

to the first, the law gives the petitioner, and motions by, the advantage of being answered, and not leading the discourse by answers put your needs and b3est interests mired in response to stipulations not of your own doing. That is the attorney placing the onus on answering and stipulating the momentum in benefit of the attorney's client.
That should require some thought to balance and give weight more to your own concerns and needs, which may also defend your risks of jeopardy without having reminded the courts of the other side of the coin.

The courts desire not to be burdened with maintanence of the parties through governmental aid.

Your own demise is equally a burden on the government. Let the couts know of your need to be insulated from slander and ill will that engenders compromise and irreparable loss to your self respect and dignity.

Remind the courts that the interests of the court are best served in preserving your rights and responsibilities as well.

After all, you have a life that ought not be destroyed by the whims of neglect and misfortunes assaulted upon your person by outside influences not entirely of your making.

Showing that the intent of the actions waged against you is to harm and not free you to enjoy your life and livlihood, will only serve to protect your interests in the matter.

The choices made have become new choices not made mutual.

The power over you is being prposed to create advantage where advantage was not offered.

That is abuse of power.

There are ways to remedy the abuse and limit it to the sanction of the court presiding over the law which is designed to protect all rights and priveleges, not just those that are entered into to wage advantage by their use.

The courts must weigh your own needs and desires equally. Cause these to be known.

Retain a competent council to voice your position in no uncertain terms.

Let this not numb you, but strengthen your resolve to contribute to your own cause.

Love for ones' adversary does not include allowing your adversary to bear sway against your will. That same love for your adversary dictates that you purpose your own sway in the matter of how that love is shared, not the adversary, nor the courts without protest.

It is not selfish to preserve one's own capacity to act willfully and from ones' noblest conscience, no matter the conflict or charge against your free will and good pleasure so to know and do.

Silence will only serve to influence the courts that you are not in disagreement with such offences perpetrated against your best interests, that are better served by your own choices and within your resources so to provide, short of your own neglect to your person in undue hardship ( which has already apprehended your need for attention and due diligence to answer)

It will work to the good in the ends that you can foresee for yourself. Use your means to that end, even when and while the pain is embracing your troubled heart.

Sronger are you for the conflict if the conflict can be mastered.