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Topic: Ex- Boy Friend Advice
Dreamweaverangel's photo
Tue 01/02/07 09:24 PM
OK...I went through a divorce, this past year, and got over it through a
lot of help with friends, family, religion, and books....Then in Sept. I
met the ''man of all my dreams'' on this site...We dated a lot since
Sept...he told me he wanted a serious relationship, with ME, only, and
he deleted his profile on here, so I did, also...we dated, all the time
and talked for hours on the phone, and suddenly, he did not call for two
weeks or e-mail or anything, telling me he ''Needed some space, to air
out his thoughts''...Will, this past Saturday, he called to tell me that
he was just broken hearted over his last relationship, and he did not
want any kind of a relationship, with anyone, at all, at this time...not
friendship...NOTHING...I figured, as much, so here I am...How can I get
over him...my heart feels broken in tooooo many pieces and I am trying
NOT to feel so hurt and angry...what do I do now?

Tneal's photo
Tue 01/02/07 09:27 PM
One step at a time. You can't make someone be with you, either though
you would love to.

Myself, I emerse myself in my writing and my kids.

songbirrd's photo
Tue 01/02/07 09:29 PM
wat a jerk,honey all i can say is im sorry.when my heart was broken the
only thing that got me through was taking sometime for myself and
figuring out where to go next.dont rush in2 a rebound just try 2 have
fun and enjoy your single life.God Bless

Dreamweaverangel's photo
Tue 01/02/07 09:33 PM
TY, Tneal...I write as well and my grown kids live nearby and so do lots
of friends and relatives...I have Yahoo IM and I do not know how to
remove him from it, because I tried removing a bf I had, years ago, from
my yahoo IM and I found out that HE can still contact ME if I remove
him...I hate seeing his name on there, all the time...it makes it hard
to get over him...should I go ahead and delete him, anyway?

Tneal's photo
Tue 01/02/07 09:35 PM
I would... *S* I have deleted a few from mine *S*

Dreamweaverangel's photo
Tue 01/02/07 09:36 PM
OK...TY, Tneal..TY Song!

ecuabella's photo
Tue 01/02/07 10:02 PM
Breakups suck...thats the bottom line. There is no easy way to feel
better except for that you have time on your side. I also am going
through a break-up and what's worse is that all my friends are married
or either in a relationship so being single isn't as fun as it used to
be. Little by little you will find yourself not thinking so much about
him and what you could or maybe think you could have done differently.
I keep telling myself not to keep loving someone that didnt love me back
or at least love me the way that I should be loved. Don't ever settle
and remember that you will eventually pick up the broken pieces and your
heart will be whole again. And someone that deserves you will come
along. Someone better and someone who knows what they want with no
confusion or hesitation.

Dreamweaverangel's photo
Tue 01/02/07 10:26 PM
bella...that is where I got ''played'' I suppose...he assured me that he
saw what he wanted in life and choose ME...He, even told me that God
chose ME for HIM...BLAB, BLAB, BLAB...That was the one thing that he,
really, had me fooled on...the part about knowing, without a doubt, what
he wanted and needed out of life. When all this was ''said and done'', I
only had one thing to say to him is this: ''You told me you KNEW what
you wanted...that YOU wanted ME and that God wanted us to be
together...so, did God change His mind?'' Needless to say, my bf did not
say one word about that.

Morena350's photo
Tue 01/02/07 10:35 PM
Braek ups, huh, sometimes I wish, my husban have broke our relationship,
but instead he died,
so I don't know what is worse...if you think about it..
would it hurt you the same?

Dreamweaverangel's photo
Tue 01/02/07 10:43 PM
Morena...I have been married 3 times, now...my 1st husband died after 10
years of marriage...since I have, also, been divorced, as well, I
believe I was, more, able to cope with my 1st true love dieing instead
of my last divorce or this break up of my latest boy friend. Death is a
forever thing and something you are forced to ''move on'' from...too
many times, though, divorce or break-ups leave you empty and/or
hanging...just like on a real rope or something...with few answers for
the deep pain...I have peace, knowing that my 1st husband is enjoying
the after-life....not so with exes.

greeneyes_69's photo
Wed 01/03/07 07:28 AM
Dream, you deserve someone who can at least treat you with enough
respect to let you know what is going on instead of just stopping all
communications with no explanation. That shows total disrespect to your
feelings. Consider it his loss!

no photo
Wed 01/03/07 07:50 AM
it goes both ways! i have been hustled by gals on here also that did not
KNOW what they wanted as well.

Dreamweaverangel's photo
Wed 01/03/07 07:53 AM
greeneyes//////TY...You just confirmed what my mom told me! She said to
break off by leaving me hanging for two weeks showed that he did not
respect me or cared about me, at all, nor ever did...now to me, that
makes him a player or maybe someone just too confused to love, anyone,
right now....if it is the latter, then he should have layed ALL his
cards on the table, at the beginning of our relationship, and told me
about his confusion, instead of actting like a guy who ''had it all
together'' and knew what he wanted and needed.

Dreamweaverangel's photo
Sat 01/06/07 05:03 PM
LMAOFOTF! GOODY! My ex-boy friend is back on this dating site, once
again HUNTING...BEWARE, LADIES! The jerk!

Morena350's photo
Sat 01/06/07 08:51 PM
who is he dream?

no photo
Sat 01/06/07 09:01 PM
santhana? rags?? lol

Dreamweaverangel's photo
Sat 01/06/07 09:04 PM
WHY should I tell WHO he is....let's seeeeee as I DO RECALL, NO ONE
WANTS ''THE DRAMA'' UP IN HERE...I KNOW....I am being a B
tonite.....LMAOFOTF....Just THINK...YOUR NEXT DATE MIGHT BE HIM....Then
I can tell you....NO MORE DRAMA!!!! LMAOFOTF! GOOOOOODDDDDD GODDDDDD!

slowtogetit's photo
Sat 01/06/07 09:04 PM
hi everyone, you just need to give yourself time and space dreamweaver.
it does suck but it will get better. just be yourself and let the man of
your dreams find you....good luck

Dreamweaverangel's photo
Sat 01/06/07 09:06 PM
TY, SLOW...You are real KOOL!

no photo
Sat 01/06/07 09:07 PM
well he won't be my next date LOL

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