OK, first I should probably tell you what happened last weekend.

My boyfriend comes down. As soon as he gets he he crashes on my couch. Thinking OK he just drove for almost 2.5 hours. Let him rest for an hour or two, no biggie. I waited for a couple of hours before I cooked dinner. And I cooked him a HUGE dinner. steak, baked potatoes, fried onions and mushrooms with ceaser salad. He got up long enough to eat it then go back to sleep. I was thinking screw this I am not going to sit around and wait for his ass to get up, so I went to the coffee shop and had a coffee. Brought one of our friends back and he was STILL sleeping. I woke him up telling him we had company. He got up for like three hours and then went back to sleep. I woke up at like 10 and asked him if he wanted to go for a walk to get a coffee. He said in a couple of minutes. 12pm rolls around. And guess what? Yup you got it he was STILL sleeping! So I thought OK I will make him breakfast just to see if that would get him up. But NOPE again he eats and goes back to sleep until about 2:30. He wakes up and says good morning. I am like morning? It is like mid afternoon! Then he asked me what if I wanted to go over to a friend of ours place. I was not really wanting to go as I just wanted to spend some time with him before he had to head for home again. But I agreed as long as we could stop off at a Tim Horton's so I could get a mint hot chocolate. He said sure. So I get my coat and shoes on and we head to the car. Thinking OK cool finally he is out of bed. But do you think we even made it to Timmy's? NO he stops off at the coffee shop where I work! We spend an hour there and then head over to our friends place. Gee that was boring as all hell. I sat alone one one side of the room while he played chess the whole three hours! We then left, and he dropped me off at home.

The next day I was in a different city at my friends house and noticed he was on MSN. I told him he had left something at my place and told me that he would be on his way to pick it up. So I told him I was not at home and if I was going to venture out in this crappy weather then he had to bring me my hot chocolate. So an hour and a half on buses to get home. He shows up not hot chocolate AGAIN, and he only stays long enough to have a smoke and ***** about life.

So here is the question. My friend gave me a gift card to go out to supper with him this weekend. But after the crap he pulled last weekend I do not want to go with him. I was so annoyed last weekend that I did not even bother asking him when I would see him again. So I want to take another friend. Do you think it is right that I do?

well ya know if he can drive so far to get to you, its obvious that he can stay up, i feel that u should take some one who acts like they care, and if he gets mad, tell him it was his loss and only he can turn things around..

Did you even bother to ask him what he was thinking? Maybe something was wrong. Find that out first and if hes still an @$$ then move on.

yep... I'd have a girls night and when he calls... let him know exactly why you're pissed.

Did you tell him how you felt? Men aren't mind readers. I can totally see why you were aggravated though. I think you can take whomever you'd like to dinner (as long as you're not crossing any lines). But I would be sure to tell him how you felt so maybe it doesn't happen again. Good luck with this!

I'd take someone who is a little more enthusiastic to be in your presence...if I drove 2.5 hours to get somewhere I sure as hell wouldn't be sleeping when I got there.

Since when did women care what we think

If you feel you should go do it. Go be your instinct. Is he seeing someone else thats why he is tired. It sounds like he is comfortable when he comes over but if it is a habit look into it.

There are too many fish in the sea to put up with crap like that. If he's not paying attention to you as you deserve, dump him. jmo.

it almost seems to me, like he was trying to avoid you, or talking to you. He probably knew, you would ask some questions. And pretending to be dying of exhaustion is a great way to do that. I fail to see, how 2.5 hours of driving could get anyone THAT exhausted anyway

I think, you should probably confront him about it and pay close attention to what he says, don't read between the lines. If he has an answer for you you can accept, great. If he doesn't say anything, you got your answer there too. Then, you should take someone with you to dinner who's company you can enjoy and who enjoys your company. Good Luck

I have talked to him. He just tells me that work is getting to him. But fuk if you are that tired then why even bother driving down? Sure I am glad that he is comfortable here. But I would still like to spend sometime with him. It is not like we see each other all that often.

if one always has right and wrong in front of them, will they not always be pulled to the right and the left.....do what you WANT and listen and believe in YOU.....if you want to than it is what he needs, as it is pretty clear he needs it, and look it is already what your desire is....YOU trust your desire and things will always work out.....someone told you to try to be good a lot, when you already are.

(((Whisper)))

Sounds to me lime you need to have a conversation, a little come to Jesus meeting. Talk about how the feelings you had this weekend. Don't accuse or complain, might be best written. Remember if written, read it once for your eyes, once for your mind & once for your heart. When you can read it 3 times like that, give it to him & see what happens. Guy's can be rather unrealizing about ladies feelings.

Hope for the best for you.

Anybody here want to go for supper with me?

((((((((Sage))))))))) Thank you my friend. But I am an atheist.

Sug, you know what I think, because we have discussed this before. But I'll say it again, for the viewers at home:

Patience is a virtue, but too much patience is a doormat.

Thank you all for your advice. I think a girls night sounds good!

talk to him girl, tell him all you feel, you are right to feel as you do....if he run from hearing you, than your heart will become light again, and if he see how he pain, then your heart is light again also.

hes not much of a bf not giving you the attention your seeking... hes lazy

Come to Jesus is just a term. Not really deals with religion.
Just a meeting to find the truth.

I'll go to dinner, anytime.
Transportation is just so expensive.