Is it possible for a woman of 51 to find a man who is a real gentleman to have a friendship with? It could turn into something deeper couldn't it? What if she has issues with her knees and her weight? If she is losing weight and working out for her knees, is she doomed to being alone or is there still hope? Please let me know what you think. Thanks. Maggie

I'm keeping the faith and holding out for Hope....there is someone out there for all of us. It's just a matter of finding them or them finding us

The physical aspects of our lives are meaningless with out the love we have for each other. If someone doesn't love someone for their inner beauty and strength then they don't truly love them. The outer beauty and strength WILL always fade. So the answer to your question is yes, there is hope. Love is the strongest force in the universe. If it wasn't God wouldn't use it so much!

It is possible! Never give up hope. It was not meant for us to live alone; the right guy will come your way.

"According to Your faith, be it unto you” (Matthew 9:29).

”Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you” (Matthew 7:7).

OMG,,I think 50 is the new 40, or whatever,,but one thing I will say, theres no way I think I don't have something to give

Pshaaaaaaaaaaawwww,,to the "physical",,,what I have to offer is maturity and wisdom,,and the "means" to do it BETTER this time,,,

Question for me is, "is there a man who can keep up with me?"

By the way ((((sweatheart)))) you are a BEAUTIFUL woman

There are still those that see the physicality first, no matter how touching and beautiful your depth is. I have lost 160, look good and work on my inner qualities, daily. Life has gifted many challenges,losing all and starting from the bottom. death of my spouse and a new way to breathe.I have been told I am defective because I did not maintain my weight, did not take care of myself all along. It did not matter to this person that I was stability for my family, that I raised kids that became mine and loved through"no matter what"..finally God gifted me what was needed to move life on when leukemia came to live in my house. Yet, recently a man told me that my stomach fat kept him from maintaining his protrusion. Our initial meeting was due to my writing and depth. I understood depth in a different way after his face to face insight.Someone cares, always..and you accept gift with thanksgiving..

maybe i'm shallow, but being with someone very over weight is difficult. i know, my marriage lasted 30 years with someone like that. and after losing the attraction for quite a number of years i gave up.

it's kinda like a lady that's only 5 foot or shorter looking for someone that's 6 foot tall. what's with that? i alway wonder; don't they get a crick in their necks when they dance slow and keep looking up?????

FYI, I am 5ft and every male I have been with has been at least 5'11". They didn't attract me, I attracted them. Many have said they like smaller women, size didn't matter. On the weight issue however, that is something different I think. Some guys like large women but women, don't you think you owe it to yourself to be healthy? Instead of "giving up" did you try to help ur mate lose the eight so that she could live a long healthy life? Attraction is not all that a relationship is about.

Dear Sweetheart, there's ALWAYS hope, just keep the faith.
Blessings

Yes there is hope and don't just work on losing weight and physical health for someone else ... you need to do it for you and when you become stronger for you...the guys will come around. Most of us guys deep down like a woman with self confidence and self estime more then ones without.

It is possible, Sweet! I also believe there is someone for all of us.

Yes. I think you'll find someone. I'm working on people in my area. It's hard to arrange dates because I give out my number and they don't call. Or I make arrangements, and something comes up. I've got a few contacts going and am working on things. I'm trying to find someone in my area to date. JSH is fun to talk on, too, though. But kind of frustrating for finding a date and a mate, from what I've found.

is it possible you ask? sure it's possible. Where there's a will,there's a way

Maggie, it is always possible. You have to realize that you are the only one like you in the world and any man would be lucky to have you. There are men, and women, who can 'see' beyond physical looks to the person you are inside. To the people looking for Barbies and Kens, but they're not real. Anyone looking for a real relationship will see beyond looks and anyone who doesn't isn't looking for a real relationship. Don't ever give up hope! I haven't.

If they are worth knowing then they take you as you are and accept you that way . Arelationship isnt about trying to change someone into who you want them to be ,unless they need help in an area ( drugs ,booze etc ) Just be yourself

Sure you should have hope sweetheart but don't get so hopeful that you just choose to be choosing. I'd love to have a lady with me too but I'll not make the same mistakes. So let's let it happen if it happens and find happiness no matter.

Hello Maggie,

This is a famous question posed in the movie "When Harry Met Sally". Can men and women just be friends and not interested in any more than that?

Yes, I think it's possible. I think first you need to tell us what you mean by a man friend? Do you mean a chat friend, a talking on the phone friend, a friend who visits you, a friend who does things with you, or something else?

I've had women friends who were just my friends. What I discovered was that once you're in a relationship the woman wants you to lose all of your women friends!! Women are suspicious and untrusting of any female friends the man had before the relationship. So if you find a man friend, just be prepared to lose him as a friend at some point because of a new woman in his life.

When it comes to women with weight problems, it's a real problem for women. While many men will accept a woman who has a few extra pounds, very few will accept a woman who is seriously overweight. It's not just because they think the weight is unattractive. It's also because of health problems. You mentioned your knee problems and I'll assume it's connected with the weight problem. I want a woman who can dance, go on hikes, and be active with me.

Yes, I think it's possible for you to find men friends who will chat with you, exchange emails, and talk with you on the phone. If you're restricted in what you can do it's going to be harder to find someone.

That's just one guys opinion but it probably reflects a lot of men's opinions.

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yes, I think it's possible...