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Oh no... DONNTT DOO ITT!!!! Heh heh heh! You said "DOO ITT" Heh heh heh! |
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why didn't you think of this before you started dating her? EXactly |
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I broke up with a woman i was dating, She was 27. Im 46. I didnt think down the road i could handle the age gap. She never had children, and never been married. I have done both. I dont mind getting married. I miss that part alot, but children. I would rather jump into a pit of snakes. She was very upset, and doesnt want to end it. She saysjust friend is out of the question, its all, or nothing. I said nothing, but she still calls. How do i get her understand that its me with the problem. Brian, I'm not you, so I can't tell you what to do. Neither can anyone else. You know your thoughts better, so decide for yourself while drawing from what you read. Personally, I would talk to her....maybe in person. Mention that she is the one calling you, not the other way around. Secondly, I would mention that you have a reason for not calling....and that reason is because you do not want any more children. If she wants children....a family....then obviously you are not the man for her no matter how much you love or respect her. She won't be happy with you if that is what she truly wants, but you respect her enough to tell her this now rather than when she feels ready to be a mother. It is only fair for both of you to go separate ways to find the happiness you both want given the issue. Furthermore, you would rather part on good terms, even friendly terms, but if she cannot accept the truth about what you both want, you have no choice but to avoid her phone calls from here on. It is not what you want to do, but what you will be forced to do. She may not like it. It may take a few days for her to understand. Chances are the message will sink in, and she will know the door is open to a continued friendship if she wants it. Best of all, you never use that dreaded phrase: "Can't we just be friends?" yes but action, she has made it clear that "friends" is not an option. and I understand where she's coming from. his reasons (stated earlier) for dating her in the first place were selfish and did not consider the ramifications, so now he wants her to accept friendship to ease his conscience but she won't take the relationship "downgrade" neither would I. Also, practically speaking, either it doesn't work out, or it will hurt her too much to be with him when she cannot have the kind of relationship she wants. I wouldn't do it either...I agree with her all or nothing. |
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I broke up with a woman i was dating, She was 27. Im 46. I didnt think down the road i could handle the age gap. She never had children, and never been married. I have done both. I dont mind getting married. I miss that part alot, but children. I would rather jump into a pit of snakes. She was very upset, and doesnt want to end it. She saysjust friend is out of the question, its all, or nothing. I said nothing, but she still calls. How do i get her understand that its me with the problem. Brian, I'm not you, so I can't tell you what to do. Neither can anyone else. You know your thoughts better, so decide for yourself while drawing from what you read. Personally, I would talk to her....maybe in person. Mention that she is the one calling you, not the other way around. Secondly, I would mention that you have a reason for not calling....and that reason is because you do not want any more children. If she wants children....a family....then obviously you are not the man for her no matter how much you love or respect her. She won't be happy with you if that is what she truly wants, but you respect her enough to tell her this now rather than when she feels ready to be a mother. It is only fair for both of you to go separate ways to find the happiness you both want given the issue. Furthermore, you would rather part on good terms, even friendly terms, but if she cannot accept the truth about what you both want, you have no choice but to avoid her phone calls from here on. It is not what you want to do, but what you will be forced to do. She may not like it. It may take a few days for her to understand. Chances are the message will sink in, and she will know the door is open to a continued friendship if she wants it. Best of all, you never use that dreaded phrase: "Can't we just be friends?" yes but action, she has made it clear that "friends" is not an option. and I understand where she's coming from. his reasons (stated earlier) for dating her in the first place were selfish and did not consider the ramifications, so now he wants her to accept friendship to ease his conscience but she won't take the relationship "downgrade" neither would I. Also, practically speaking, either it doesn't work out, or it will hurt her too much to be with him when she cannot have the kind of relationship she wants. I wouldn't do it either...I agree with her all or nothing. 
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I broke up with a woman i was dating, She was 27. Im 46. I didnt think down the road i could handle the age gap. She never had children, and never been married. I have done both. I dont mind getting married. I miss that part alot, but children. I would rather jump into a pit of snakes. She was very upset, and doesnt want to end it. She saysjust friend is out of the question, its all, or nothing. I said nothing, but she still calls. How do i get her understand that its me with the problem. Brian, I'm not you, so I can't tell you what to do. Neither can anyone else. You know your thoughts better, so decide for yourself while drawing from what you read. Personally, I would talk to her....maybe in person. Mention that she is the one calling you, not the other way around. Secondly, I would mention that you have a reason for not calling....and that reason is because you do not want any more children. If she wants children....a family....then obviously you are not the man for her no matter how much you love or respect her. She won't be happy with you if that is what she truly wants, but you respect her enough to tell her this now rather than when she feels ready to be a mother. It is only fair for both of you to go separate ways to find the happiness you both want given the issue. Furthermore, you would rather part on good terms, even friendly terms, but if she cannot accept the truth about what you both want, you have no choice but to avoid her phone calls from here on. It is not what you want to do, but what you will be forced to do. She may not like it. It may take a few days for her to understand. Chances are the message will sink in, and she will know the door is open to a continued friendship if she wants it. Best of all, you never use that dreaded phrase: "Can't we just be friends?" yes but action, she has made it clear that "friends" is not an option. and I understand where she's coming from. his reasons (stated earlier) for dating her in the first place were selfish and did not consider the ramifications, so now he wants her to accept friendship to ease his conscience but she won't take the relationship "downgrade" neither would I. Also, practically speaking, either it doesn't work out, or it will hurt her too much to be with him when she cannot have the kind of relationship she wants. I wouldn't do it either...I agree with her all or nothing.
no sugar I didn't even look -how did it get bumped I wonder?
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I broke up with a woman i was dating, She was 27. Im 46. I didnt think down the road i could handle the age gap. She never had children, and never been married. I have done both. I dont mind getting married. I miss that part alot, but children. I would rather jump into a pit of snakes. She was very upset, and doesnt want to end it. She saysjust friend is out of the question, its all, or nothing. I said nothing, but she still calls. How do i get her understand that its me with the problem. Brian, I'm not you, so I can't tell you what to do. Neither can anyone else. You know your thoughts better, so decide for yourself while drawing from what you read. Personally, I would talk to her....maybe in person. Mention that she is the one calling you, not the other way around. Secondly, I would mention that you have a reason for not calling....and that reason is because you do not want any more children. If she wants children....a family....then obviously you are not the man for her no matter how much you love or respect her. She won't be happy with you if that is what she truly wants, but you respect her enough to tell her this now rather than when she feels ready to be a mother. It is only fair for both of you to go separate ways to find the happiness you both want given the issue. Furthermore, you would rather part on good terms, even friendly terms, but if she cannot accept the truth about what you both want, you have no choice but to avoid her phone calls from here on. It is not what you want to do, but what you will be forced to do. She may not like it. It may take a few days for her to understand. Chances are the message will sink in, and she will know the door is open to a continued friendship if she wants it. Best of all, you never use that dreaded phrase: "Can't we just be friends?" yes but action, she has made it clear that "friends" is not an option. and I understand where she's coming from. his reasons (stated earlier) for dating her in the first place were selfish and did not consider the ramifications, so now he wants her to accept friendship to ease his conscience but she won't take the relationship "downgrade" neither would I. Also, practically speaking, either it doesn't work out, or it will hurt her too much to be with him when she cannot have the kind of relationship she wants. I wouldn't do it either...I agree with her all or nothing.
no sugar I didn't even look -how did it get bumped I wonder?
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I broke up with a woman i was dating, She was 27. Im 46. I didnt think down the road i could handle the age gap. She never had children, and never been married. I have done both. I dont mind getting married. I miss that part alot, but children. I would rather jump into a pit of snakes. She was very upset, and doesnt want to end it. She saysjust friend is out of the question, its all, or nothing. I said nothing, but she still calls. How do i get her understand that its me with the problem. Brian, I'm not you, so I can't tell you what to do. Neither can anyone else. You know your thoughts better, so decide for yourself while drawing from what you read. Personally, I would talk to her....maybe in person. Mention that she is the one calling you, not the other way around. Secondly, I would mention that you have a reason for not calling....and that reason is because you do not want any more children. If she wants children....a family....then obviously you are not the man for her no matter how much you love or respect her. She won't be happy with you if that is what she truly wants, but you respect her enough to tell her this now rather than when she feels ready to be a mother. It is only fair for both of you to go separate ways to find the happiness you both want given the issue. Furthermore, you would rather part on good terms, even friendly terms, but if she cannot accept the truth about what you both want, you have no choice but to avoid her phone calls from here on. It is not what you want to do, but what you will be forced to do. She may not like it. It may take a few days for her to understand. Chances are the message will sink in, and she will know the door is open to a continued friendship if she wants it. Best of all, you never use that dreaded phrase: "Can't we just be friends?" yes but action, she has made it clear that "friends" is not an option. and I understand where she's coming from. his reasons (stated earlier) for dating her in the first place were selfish and did not consider the ramifications, so now he wants her to accept friendship to ease his conscience but she won't take the relationship "downgrade" neither would I. Also, practically speaking, either it doesn't work out, or it will hurt her too much to be with him when she cannot have the kind of relationship she wants. I wouldn't do it either...I agree with her all or nothing.
no sugar I didn't even look -how did it get bumped I wonder?
at the time I was right in the middle of breaking it of with a much younger man myself. No dramatic stories...was what it was |
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I love cougars.
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