Ok...well I have this close friend well he's like my best friend, we see each other all the time, hang out, go do stuff and have fun. But...I started to have feelings for him and I rode it off thinking it was nothing but it only got stronger and grew to L--- and...well I guess I just need some advice on how to get over him cause I cant even sleep now and I've even tried not seein him all the time but it didnt help just made me miss him more. He doesnt like me that way and I wouldnt want anything to happen to our friendship if it didnt work out....so any suggestions on what I should do?

First of all, Are you just assuming that he doesn't like you that way or did you discuss it with him? I always say you should be honest and put your feelings out there because if you dont you will never know. I've been in a situation with a friend like this before and you can still remain friends if one person doesn't feel the same way. It's a difficult thing to deal with but it can be done.

Good luck!

I guess go take a cold shower, don't know what to say here. I can understand totally why he doesn't want to ruin a friendship with you if a relationship doesn't work out etc.

Maybe you could try and talk to him some more about it and say your willing to risk everything because of your strong feelings if he just gives it a chance and see what he say's.

Just an idea.

I been actually talking to a friend that is going through the same thing. If you want to know the truth on how he feels about and such. The only way your going to know is by actually telling him where you stand with all off this. There is noway to work around it. just know this. If your not ready for the truth, then don't ask what you don't realy want to know...

I have been in your position it sucks sometimes friends are beter because everyone needs a goodfriend.

Yeah he knows....he told me he loved me too just that he didnt know in what way...and for him thats strange so I took it as I love you as a friend cause he's not afraid to speak his mind, but he does really care about me and prob didnt want to hurt me.

Id much rather the truth...get it over with and done instead of being left behind a door.

I was in a very similar situation with my best guy friend about a year ago. At first, I had convinced myself that I would talk with him about it, but I was so worried about ruining our friendship or making it awkward if he didn't feel the same way.

I decided to ride it out, just to see if anything would change. I ended up going on a few dates along the way, and really liking some other guys. After dating other people, I realized that my feelings for my guy friend weren't as strong as I thought.

In hind sight, I now know that I was most likely looking for the comfort of a mate, and him being a close friend and a male, my mind went directly to him.

Maybe you should try dating other people and seeing if they measure up to your friend. If you really give dating a try and you still can't get your mind off of your friend, then I would say talk to him about it. At least that way you will know that your feelings aren't stemming from feelings of loneliness. Otherwise you will always be wondering 'what if?'.

Just another point - you have to decide if your friendship with him is more important than the possibility of a relationship. You never really know how it will affect your friendship if/when you bring it up.

The short of it: Take your time, be sure of your feelings, and weigh your options.

Good luck!

thank you all