okay so i know you realy cant choose who you want your parent to date or whatever, BUT here's my story.
okay so my mom and dad got divorced when i was 10 right after my little brother was born... he's 14 now, so i figure... for 14 years my mother has been with people who have verbally abused me. and her most previous ex now not ex again is the WORST. he crushes up whats left in the ends of cigarettes and puts them in my bed, and in my pillowcase, and one time i came home from work after pulling a double at mcdonalds because i needed the extra money... and i fell into my bed, like litterally collapsed and heard clank and had a sharp pain in my shoulder. i was LAYING on a sink full of dishes in my bed... and there was grease on my new christmas sheets and everything. i was so mad. and at my house i dont have a door on my "room," i live in the walk in closet area and i dont have a door... i have a "curtain" for a door, and he stands at the top of the stairs almost in my little brothers doorway and watches my shillouette as i change... he;s a total 56 year old pothead pervert... and when she finally told him to leave last time, he tried to kiss my 17 year old sister on the lips... he's creepy. so of course when i found out he was coming back, i called my sister to tell her he was moving back in, she called my mom and told her she was moving in with her friend. my mother threw me out of the house yesterday for telling my little sister, one of my best friends... someone who scares us both equally is coming back to the only place we've ever called home. and my mother knows how much he scares us both... but she obviously dosent care that shes losing her two oldest children due to her own dating decisions, and im scared that he might hurt her or my little brother. what should i do? my mother and i never talk about anything, we just yell at eachother, and im kind of glad she kicked me out... but at the same time i dont want anything to happen to her... shes my MOTHER... you know? i dont know what i should do and im scared for her. i know she has her own chemical imbalance, but wouldent you rather have your children as opposed to someone you always ***** to your children about? when you know she dosent even like him in the first place and just "NEEDS" to have someone around? i dont f u ck ing get it...

sounds intense

OH MY GOODNESS, he needs to GO.
I feel bad for you, he IS a perv!!!

Where is your dad?

Don't call him daddy get!!

Holy crap, serious therapy session needed there. If everyone's safety is that much of a concern, the law needs to be involved... if nothing else, you can call a crisis hotline

I'll say a prayer for you and your family

i think you need to get with one of Moms friends or your brother and set her straight.Obviously she need some counseling so she can find out why she is in these unhealthy relationships.Keep in contact with her though so you can be sure she is okay..Good Luck.

he knows we hate him too.
he calls him bob the burnout

having come from a abusive background myself, all i can say is that you are right, you can't choose who or what your mom dates, but you can better your own self, and walk right on out and concern your own self for the sake of your own life. some of the ones we love, don't listen and if you stay and tolerate the conditions, you are only helping to enable her and destroy your own chance to live...be strong and get the hell out and live for your own self

Have a sit down with your Mother and talk to her about her dicisions and the impact it has on her children. Help her find professional help if she is willing to take that step.

be nice Pat

thank you.


and to the person below, we've tried family councelling, they told us it dosent seel like we can be helped.

i got a giggle out of that

no fast answer for this

Damn darlin, I'm sorry you have to put up with that crap. I would never put my child through something like that. You should call the cops on that ass and have him thrown in jail.

hehe Pat makes me giggle a lot

you, your sisters, and your brothers safety are at steak, I really think you need to tell a grandparent or a close friend, or even call child services, they is some serious bad juju going on here

OMG! You will be in my thoughts and prayers along with your entire family. It is my opinion that you "moving" out is for the best. Keep in mind your mother is and always will be your mother. She may need you or you may need her one day. Please keep the lines of communication open. Good luck to you!

get a new counselor or see one on your own because I'm sure you have issues from this.

I feel that you are in serious danger, some reinforcements need to be brought in