How long should a guy wait before telling a girl he is in love with her.
When he sees himself falling deeper and deeper on a daily basis. Even
though they have only been communicating a short period of time in
weeks. When he has never heard her voice or seen her picture but still
feels like it is almost impossible for him to go through another day
without atleast typing back and forth with her. When he goes to bed at
night thinking about the day they finally meet in person and wakes up
witht he same thoughts. When all he has to go on is what is written on
the computer screen in front of him. I just want to get as many opinions
of this one as possible. I have always taken that love word very
seriously in life. This time it is very hard for me not to use it. I
find myself holding back from telling her almost like a school kid.
Wanting them to say it first. Maybe it is me wanting so deeply to find
that special someone. Maybe I subconsiously think telling them it will
make them even closer to me in mind and spirit. I am not sure they are
my perfect match but they are always there in my thoughts desires and
dreams. I don't think there is a standard answer on this question
altough it has been asked many times on here. I think it shold be based
on what you feel inside for a person. PLEASE HELP

Normally, I would tell you to take it kinda slow, but what for? You
could tell her about your feelings...I do not think it would hurt...but
how can you say, you truely love someone, who you have never met, in
person? I think that you should start off giving her hints of your
feelings and meet, in person, as soon as possible...but meet in a public
place for dinner at a relaxed place and take it from there. No matter
how much you e-mail a person or talk on the phone, you, really, do not
know that person until you are around them, for a while...I have been
there, done that.

kevin, you are not alone...i feel that way all the time i start iming
with a new face so to speak,

I have learnd now how to keep my emotions in check...and will wait for
the right signal that lets m know she feels the same way...this way i
don't feel like a horses ass when it dosent work out the way i had hope
it would...hell there she is now on im...got to go good luck dude

TRUST ME KEV, IF YOU HAVE NEVER REALLY MET HER, DON'T SAY IT!

NO MATTER HOW YOU THINK YOU FEEL, THEM "REAL" WORDS SHOULD NEVER

BE USED EXCEPT IN PERSON......THAT MY TRUE LIFE'S ANSWER...

THERE ARE ONLY TWO THINGS YOU NEVER SHOULD SAY BY PHONE OR IN

ANY OTHER WAY THAN IN-PERSON,
1.A DEATH------2. YOUR TRUE HEART..MEANING THOSE THREE WORDS..

YOU CAN HINT OF IT, YOU COULD SUGGEST THE THOUGHT OF MAYBE,
BUT ALWAYS KEEP THEM THREE WORDS TO BEING FIRST SAID IN-PERSON.

dam T that mead sence

dam T, that made sence!!!

He usually does make sence. I just don't honestly know if I can hold
out that long. I do know I should based on past experience though.

I'VE LIVED MY LIFE TO SAY LOVE,,,FREELY.

BUT I'VE ALSO LIVED IT TO NEVER USE THEM 'REAL WORDS' ONLY
AT CERTAIN TIMES IN ANY BEGINNING AFFAIR,

IF A CHICK THROWS THAT AT ME TO QUICK, IM WONDERING ALOT ABOUT
HER TRUTH BEHIND THEM,,,,ALOT USE 'IT' LIKE A NON-CHALUNT PHRASE
AND THEM LADIES, DON'T REALLY HAVE MY HEART IN THEM WHEN THERE
TALKING TO ME WITH THEM, AND THAT WAS A VERY PAINFUL, REALILITY.
MY EX GF. WAS LIKE THAT,,,

MOST GUYS THINK THAT ALL WOMEN DO FEEL THAT SAME LOVE THERE FEELING
BUT,,,,,,,NOPE!!!!!

I agree with Iam, I was talking to someone for a month and a half and
she called almost everyday and sometimes 2 to 3 times a day even though
I see the pic and heard her voice I new in the back of my mind I was not
going to expect anything from this because I have not meet her at that
time. Yeah we had good conversations and some laughs and understanding
in some situations but I felt she wqas more in to me then I was in to
her and so in all of this after I met her even though we had all the
talks and the good times if you were to say I found out that I was not
attracted to her. Although even with the great personality and and the
fun times and all the conversations we had, the attraction is what stop
things on my part but I have not in anyway what so ever was
disrespectful tord her I even tryed to be a friend after all that but
she thought different. So if your going to do this you better expect
someone to get hurt if for some reason she feels the same way and you
find out your not attracted to her.

personly i like the word adore it get the point across and is better
than i like you, and not as committing as love you

Hi Kev,gotta go with T and Shadow.Been there,the phone is not even good
enough.You cant know you love her till you have been togather a few
times.For instance,I was talking to one for months,phone and pc.She
could talk about all.We got togather and she got shy.After seeing
eachother for about a month she finally kissed me.A short in a 24 volt
circuit would have had more spark.Take it slow and be careful!

YEAH I THINK WE'VE SAW ALOT OF THE SAME LIFE SHADOW, AND RIDES
TO LIVES, THATS WHERE IM SAYING ONE CAN HINT OF LOVE ,LIKE ADORE
HER OR , I JUST LOVE THAT ABOUT YOU, OR YOU KNOW, WE ARE REALLY
STARTING TO HAVE SOMETHING HERE, I MEAN DAMM, YOU ARE SO LOVING.
THEM CAN ALL HINT OF LOVE BUT NEVER SAID THEM WORDS...
AND KEV, DUDE, IF YOU FEEL TOWARD LOVE ANYTHING CLOSE TO HOW I HOLD THAT
POWER IN MY HEART,,,,IF YOU TELL HER YOU LOVE HER NOW,
W/O SEEING HER, THEN YOU WILL HAVE LOST, 50 PERCENT OF WHAT IT WILL EVER
FEEL OR BE TO BOTH OF YOU LATER IN LIFE IF YOU TWO DO GO ON WITH YOUR
HEARTS????? AND LIKE SHADOW SAID, MAN THEM
WORDS WHEN SAID THROUGH YOUR HEART, WOW THEY HURT LIKE A MOTHER
PUDER LATER IF SOMETHING GOES WRONG...

I am very impressed by you gentleman. Very good advice. A real women can
tell when a man has feelings for her. If she comes right out the gate
telling you that she loves you..shes not thinking..shes caught up in the
moment. Love is a very fragile thing and the heart should always be
handled with care. Always think before you speak and use your words
wisely. Never say anything heart felt on a whim....take your time. Learn
to read between the lines. Listen to her tone when she speaks to you and
the subjects she likes to talk to you about. You will know in your heart
when the right time has come to tell her your true feelings, but alway
confess your feelings in person. You need to see her eyes and she needs
to see yours. They are the windows to our soul and they never lie.

LIVEnLOVE thank you, some of us know what you just said but it is nice
just to hear it. :)

I give credit where credit is due. I read you all stuff all the time.
You could say i'm a closet groupy of the male cast on this site. You
guys crack me up. Its nice to hear your thoughts and opinions on such a
wide variety of things.

Glad to make ya laugh live........lol

Thanks for chiming in all I will hold off as hard as it may be for me
to. I cannot in my mind fathom being able to meet her in real life for
atleast 6 months unless something major happens. She lives thousands of
mies from me and cannot leave her area and I have things holding me here
like dying family members and children. Maybe in 6 months or so I will
be able to fly out and meet her for a week or so in real life.

ONLY THING I'D ADD KEVIN IS TO GET THAT PIC, EVEN IF YOU'VE
TALKED ON THE PHONE, I'D STILL MAKE SURE SHE WAS WHO SHE SAYS
SHE IS,,,,IF YOUR TALKING ABOUT GIVING UP A HALF A YEAR OF YOUR LIFE,
MAN....THEN YOU COULD JUST KEEP ON KEEPING ON...WITH HER..

IAM it would be nice but I dont think it will be possible for me to get
the pic of her. As it would not be alloud due to her current emplyoment.
I can tell you this much though you know the person pretty well yourself
on here even if they do not post very often lately. Even you had nothing
but nice words for this person IAM. Outside appearence means so little
to me anyhow I am falling for this one hard and fast from the things she
says, my interpetation of what she says, How she acts and how she
responds to the things I say. Since I have been talking to her I have
found it seems that I am getting alot of other people in here as
friends. So even if it does not work out between us I will atleast have
my friends to help with the pain and torchure I will have to deal with
inside. Love hurts me more then death itself hurts me. I can go to a
funeral and not cry but take me to a wedding of a close friend and I
cannot help but to cry my eyes out.

Well keven We will always be here what ever happens man. I know I joke a
lot But that is jus me I like to make people happy wether I am or not.
But when it comes down to sharing with someone I can be real and I got a
good ear.