I think what I did was just take time for myself, its not easy getting
over someone that you were in love with. You have to make sure that you
are totally over that person before you drag someone else into your
life, you don't want to complicate things.
I would think it would make things easier knowing that she already has
someone, now you have to realize that you would never want her back if
she can throw away what you had so easily.
Never sit at home and be depressed....it is very easy to get into that
pattern. Spend as much time with family and friends and just don't let
her know that she hurt you..thats what most people enjoy!
I wish you happiness and I hope that you find what you are looking
for...happy searching!!

again thanks for everyones input. I had no idea so many people would say
something. It's pretty refreshing

you're talking to people "moving on". stick around here, that will help
you the most.

Gooddad....if I jump in here, I hope you listen to everyone, on here,
and then read this...this is some research that I have done and appilyed
to my own life... IT, REALLY WORKS...I, also, have lost at love, through
death and divorce as well...it is NOT easy to move on and reclaim your
life after a lovers death or a di, but for your sake and that of your
son, you MUST LIVE! When I say LIVE, THAT IS WHAT I AM SAYING...LIVE!
DOOOO SOMETHING!!!! KEEP YOURSELF BUSY! Join a club...join a church...go
to a bar {but do not over drink there}...learn how to square dance, line
dance, ect...DO SOMETHING...Date, on the internet with real people but
meet in a public place...SURROUND yourself with family and
friends...stay BUSY....SOOOO BUSY that you have no time for idle
thoughts of your ex...If, and when you do think of your ex, use a power,
within your brain, to REPLACE THE THOUGHT OF THE EX, with another
thought of someone else or a happy thought of your past, that DOES NOT
include the EX....Soon, with doing everything, I tell you here, you will
feel better...also, going to talk to a minister or a counceler is a
GREAT IDEA, as well.

hello dreamweaver how are u tonight?

HI STAN! OOOOOO, Just taking in my own advice to Gooddad....LOL! I just
got over my husband of 3 years and I have been over my dead husband for
years....and tonight, I am going to have to learn to get over my new
EX-Boyfriend....LOL! LIFE SUCKS!LOL!

ouch sry to hear that, and yes it does suck some times, but as the
saying goes can't truly enjoy the sunshine without a little rain now and
then!

LMAO! Rain I can handle, just fine....BUT WHERE IS THE ARK WHEN YOU NEED
ONE!? LMAOFOTF!!!!!

wow that's deep. I hope you find the courage and strength you need

I know the fear of being kicked to the curb. Just don't rush anything. I know your loneliness, but you have your boy, and that will keep you focused.

Find something you are really good at, to keep your mind occupied. Sitting around thinking can only do harm if you are afraid and lonely. Don't listen to love songs! Be yourself, and eventually things will take thier course.

Hope this helps if nothing more than to let you know you are not alone. 6 years for me, so take your time and CYA without letting it interfere with the natural flow of things. I've made mistakes. We all do, but just because you meet and have feelings for someone down the road, hey, don't make them pay for the wrong your wife did you.

I will quickly say you are not alone in these feelings. And you sound like a very great guy. Before U can move on you really have to be out of love with her and that takes time. Sounds like she was long before you split. Still its good for the heart and soul to go out and have fun with someone, just let them know where you stand in this, u wouldnt want to be lead on is all right? Staying alone all the time prolongs the process or can at least make it harder emotionally on you in many ways versus not sitting around alone wollowing in these feelings.I know from experience about all this. Simualr situation.

Also, wish u hadn't signed off, u seem very guinuine.

Hey man I read your post and know just how you feel. I'm going thru the same thing with my life but have more kids and still feel alone. Everyone on here is right tho. Be strong for your son and show him the love you would show someone else. It really helps and has helped me in the same spot. Mine couldn't wait to meet other guys heck she had sex with them before we seperated. And I do know that looking for the right one at this point isn't the best idea. I'm not doing anything but trying to enjoy the free time I have to do things I didn't get to do before. But don't give up it's not easy and sometimes I feel that way too. But my friends and family help me with that. So if you need a friend I'll be around here too.

Well u do have ur son there not like some of us that dont have that Like me i will get her back one day ^^ hopeing everday

hookers and booze helps.

Also if you have any friends or family, hanging out a little bit with them is good.

Nachos and action flicks help.

Being outside, and i'm not kidding sunlight has been proven to positively effect mood.

Write down five things you like about your life every day.

Don't hold a grudge, give up any resentment you may feel.

Meditation can help center your mood.

exercising and eating right, positively effects your mood.

also since you have a kid, i don NOT recommend killing yourself.

From my Griefshare book, Session 9.

Stuck In Grief Or Moving On?

Stuck in grief

Grief freezes us
Write your feelings
Acknowledge hidden grief
Address unresolved issues
You must decide

Moving on

The time must come
Letting go
Look beyond the past
Release your emotions
Maintain humor
Receive God's help
Confess self-preoccupation
Do not try to do it alone
Help others stuck in grief
Its benefits

Responses that cause us to stay stuck in grief
We act as if the loss is not affecting us.
We act as if we are still in control.
We give in to despair as our normal attitude.
We refuse to let the departed go.
We hold onto our anger against God.

Hopefully he has moved on by now. This is an old post from December last year. All I can add is time heals. But it takes longer to mend!

I have no son, but after a 5 year relationship gone wrong I'm still incredibly depressed after 8 months. What I'm trying to do is not focus attention on any one person. I've said this before, pull the hugh heffner approach. Date around a great deal, 3 or 5 girlfriends at a time. I realize that may seem inappropriate due to the fact that you have a child but once you snap out of your depression then it will be easier to focus on your child and yourself, and at that point you will be able to find someone for a meaningful relationship. That's how I'm attempting to get out of it anyways.. Gotta move on somehow. Good luck to you buddy, I'll actually keep your situation in my prayers.

It is an one day at a time thing for me. When my soul mate died it was the most horrible thing I had ever went through in my life. First the denial. Second the bargaining. Third the rage. Fourth the guilt. Fifth the horror. Sixth the tears that lasted forever. Seventh the association with everything. Eighth the fear that I was really alone. Ninth the self-pity. Tenth the demons and their hellatious laughter. Eleventh the hysterical laughter with uncontrollable crying. Twelveth the belief that God sincerely hated me. Thirteenth the belief that I was Satan. Fourteenth the belief that I was the grim reaper. Fifteenth the demon exorcism. Sixteenth the fragile peace. Seventeenth the thought that I was totally insane. Eighteenth the new friends that I made. Nineteenth being able to laugh again even though I felt guilt for that, too. Twentieth working with others like myself. That has been my trip from mourning to joy.